Keadaan wanita di dunia ada enam:
1. Meninggal sebelum menikah.
2. Ditalak suami pertama, dan tidak menikah lagi sampai meninggal.
3. Menikah dengan lelaki yang bukan ahli surga. Misalnya, suaminya murtad atau melakukan kesyirikan.
4. Meninggal lebih dahulu sebelum suaminya.
5. Ditinggal mati suaminya, dan tidak menikah lagi sampai meninggal.
6. Ditalak atau ditinggal mati suaminya, kemudian menikah dengan lelaki lain.
Untuk wanita jenis pertama, kedua, dan ketiga, dia akan dinikahkan dengan seorang lelaki yang menjadi penghuni surga. Dia memiliki sifat yang sempurna, sebagaimana penghuni surga lainnya. Ini berdasarkan sabda Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
ما في الجنة أعزب
“Di surga, tidak ada orang yang tidak menikah.” (H.R. Ahmad dan Muslim)
Untuk wanita jenis keempat dan kelima, dia akan dinikahkan dengan suaminya di dunia.
Adapun wanita yang keenam akan dinikahkan dengan suami yang terakhir. Ini berdasarkan sabda Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
أيما امرأة تُوفي عنها زوجها ، فتزوجت بعده ، فهي لآخر أزواجها
“Wanita mana pun yang ditinggal mati suaminya, kemudian si wanita menikah lagi, maka dia menjadi istri bagi suaminya yang terakhir.” (H.R. Thabrani; dinilai sahih oleh Al-Albani)
Disadur dari risalah Ahwalun Nisa’ fil Jannah, karya Sulaiman bin Shaleh al-Khurasyi.
Kedaan Wanita Di dunia
Tanda-tanda Waliyulloh
Tanda-tanda kewalian dijelaskan oleh Allah di dalam firman-Nya:
“Ingatlah, sesungguhnya wali-wali Allah itu, tidak ada kekhawatiran terhadap mereka dan tidak (pula mereka bersedih hati. (yaitu) orang-orang yang beriman dan mereka selalu bertaqwa.” (Qs. Yunus:62-63)
Tanda-tanda kewalian adalah berimana kepada Allah dan bertakwa kepada-Nya. Barang siapa yang beriman dan bertakwa kepada Allah, maka dia adalah walyullah. Sedangkan orang yang berbuat syirik, maka dia bukan waliyullah, melainkan musuh Allah seperti difirmankan-Nya:
“Barangsiapa yang menjadi musuh Allah, malaikat-malaikat-Nya, rasul-rasul-Nya, Jibril dan Mikail, maka sesungguhnya Allah adalah musuh orang-orang kafir.”(Qs. Al-Baqarah:98)
Orang yang memohon kepada selain Allah atau memohon kepada sesuatu yang tidak kuasa mengabulkannya kecuali Allah, maka dia adalah musyrik, kafir dan bukan waliyullah walaupun dia mengaku demikian, bahkan anggapan bahwa dirinya wali tetap dia tidak bertauhid, tidak beriman dan tidak bertakwa adalah anggapan yang dusta dan bertentangan dengan tanda-tanda wali Allah (-editor).
Nasihat saya kepada saudara-saudara saya yang Muslim dalam masalah ini hendakalah mereka tidak tertipu oleh orang-orang yang mengaku wali itu dan hendaklah mereka tetap kembali kepada Kitabullah dan Sunnah Nabi yang shahih, hingga harapan, tawakkal, dan sandaran mereka hanya kepada Allah semata, sehingga mereka merasa aman, tenang, dan damai. Dengan begitu mereka bisa menyelamatkan harta mereka dari perampokan orang0orang yang bertindak khurafat itu. Dengan merujuk kepada Al-Kitab dan Sunnah, mereka akan terhindar dari keterpedayaan oleh diri mereka sendiri.
Kadang kita temukan, ada diantara manusia yang mengaku dirinya pemimpin atau wali. Jika anda merenungkan atau memikirkan apa yang mereka lakukan, anda dapati mereka jauh dari perwalian dan kepemimpinan. Wali yang sebenarnya tidak mungkin mengaku-aku bahwa dirinya wali, sebaliknya dia merasa enggan mendapatkan penghormatan, permuliaan dan sebagainya.
Tetapi Anda dapati dia beriman, bertakwa, menyembunyikan identitas, tidak menampakkan diri, tidak suka ketenaran, tidak ingin didatangi manusia, atau dijadikan sandaran, baik karena takut atau berharap. Jika ada seorang mengaku-aku sebagai wali hanya untuk mendapatkan kemuliaan dan kehormatan, menjadi tempat kembali dan tempat bergantung, maka sebenarnya, tindakan ini bertentangan dengan takwa dan perwalian.
Maka dari itu dijelaskan dalam hadits dari Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam tentang orang yang menuntut ilmu agar disanjung oleh orang-orang bodoh dan didekati para ulama atau agar menjadi pusat perhatian manusia, maka dia akan mendapatkan ancaman begini dan begitu.
Pernyataan ini diperkuat dengan sabda beliau shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam: ”Atau untuk memalingkan wajah manusia kepadanya.”
Orang0-orang yang mengaku bahwa dirinya wali dan berusaha memalingkan wajah manusia kepadanya, mereka adalah sejauh-jauh orang dari perwalian.
Nasihat saya kepada saudara-saudara saya yang Muslim agar mereka tidak terpedaya oleh orang-orang semacam itu dan hendaklah mereka kembali kepada Kitabullah dan Sunnah Rasul-Nya, dan hendaklah mereka menggantungkan cita-cita dan harapan mereka kepada Allah semata.
Sumber: Tuntunan Tanya Jawab Akidah, Shalat, Zakat, Puasa dan Haji (Fatawa Arkanul islam), Syaikh Muhammad bin Shalih Al-Utsaimin, Darul Falah, 2007
Kata Kunci Terkait: apakah tanda-tanda seorang wali, puasa, mengaku wali allah, zakat, khurafat adalah, shalat, puasanya waliyulloh, tanda2 wali allah, musyrik, saya wali allah.
Perlakuan Buruk dari Orang Tua Suami
Dan tidaklah sama kebaikan dan kejahatan. Tolaklah (kejahatan itu) dengan cara yang lebih baik, maka tiba-tiba orang yang antaramu dan antara dia ada permusuhan seolah-olah telah menjadi teman yang sangat setia. Sifat-sifat yang baik itu tidak dianugerahkan melainkan kepada orang-orang yang sabr dan tidak dianugerahkan melainkan kepada orang-orang yang sabar dan tidak dianugerahkan melainkan kepada orang-orang yang mempunyai keberuntungan yang besar.” (Qs. Fushshilat: 34-35)
Dia ‘azza wa jalla berfirman: “Tolaklah (kejahatan itu) dengan cara yang lebih baik”, dan tidak memfirmankan: “Tolaklah kejahatan dengan kebaikan.”
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala berfirman:
“Dengan cara yang lebih baik.” Bila ini terjadi, dan manusia mematuhi perintah Tuhannya, niscaya permusuhan berubah menjadi kesetiaan dan persahabatan, seolah-olah ia adalah teman yang sangat setia; yakni amat dekat lagi kuat rasa persahabatannya.
Yang mengatakan itu adalah Tuhan semesta alam, yang ditangan-Nya terpegang klimaks segala urusan. Dialah Dzat Yang tiada satu pun hati anak Adam, melainkan berada di antara dua jari-Nya. Bukan mustahil permusuhan berubah menjadi persahabatan dan kebencian berubah menjadi cinta kasih, karena Yang Mengucapkan hal itu adalah Tuhan semesta alam.
Aku memberikan saran kepada wanita yang telah menceritakan keadaan dirinya tersebut –yang dalam kenyataannya ia tidak bahagia- agar ia bersabar, mengharapkan pahala, dan selalu menunggu hadirnya kelonggaran. Ia harus tahu bahwa ia bukan satu-satunya yang mengalami hal tersebut. Alangkah banyak wanita yang mengeluhkan suami mereka, ayahnya, maupun ibunya; tetapi dengan kesabaran dan keyakinan, dan Allah pun mempermudah urusannya. Maka nasihatku untuknya: Hendaknya ia bersabar dan mengaharap pahala.
Sedangkan nasihatku untuk suaminya dan ayah suaminya: Keduanya harus bertakwa kepada Allah ‘azza wa jalla dalam urusan wanita yang kurang bahagia tersebut, jika apa yang ia ceritakan dalam pertanyaan itu benar-benar terjadi pada dirinya. Hendaknya hati keduanya lebih longgar daripada hati wanita tersebut dan jangan sampai mereka menyiksa wanita itu karena apa yang ia lakukan, bila memang ia melakukan suatu kekhilafan. Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda:
“Jangan sampai seorang mukmin laki-laki (suami) membenci seorang mukmin perempuan (istrinya). Jika ia tidak suka terhadap salah satu perangainya, bisa jadi ia ridha dengan perangainya yang lain.”
Beliau ‘alaihish shalatu was salam bersabda:
“Hendaknya kalian saling menasehati untuk berlaku baik kepada para wanita. Sesungguhnya mereka diciptakan dari tulang rusuk, dan tulang rusuk yang paling bengkok adalah bagian paling atas. Jika kamu berusaha meluruskannya, niscaya kamu akan mematahkannya. Jika kau biarkan, niscaya ia akan selalu bengkok.” (HR Bukhari)
“Jika kamu bersenang-senang dengan isri kalian, niscaya kalian bersenang- senang dengannya dalam keadaan ia bengkok. Jika kamu bersuaha meluruskannya, niscaya kamu akan mematahkannya. Sedangkan patahnya adalah cerainya.”
Nasihatku untuk suaminya dan ayah suaminya: keduanya harus bertakwa kepada Allah ‘azza wa jalla dalam urusan wanita tersebut dan membalas keburukannya – jika ia melakukan keburukan – dengan perbuatan baik, dan Allah selalu beserta orang-orang yang sabar.
Sumber: Setiap Problem Suami-Istri Ada Solusinya, Solusi atas 500 Problem Istri dan 300 Problem Suami oleh Sekelompok Ulama: Syaikhul Islam Ibn Taimiyah, Syaikh bin Baz, Syaikh Muhammad bin Ibrahim, Syaikh Abdullah bin Utsaimin, Syaikh Abdullah bin Jibrin dll, Mitra Pustaka, 2008
Hukum Menikah yang pernah Berzinah
Assalamu ‘alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh
Sehubungan dengan An Nuur ayat 3, apakah dibolehkan seseorang yang tidak pernah berzina menikahi laki-laki/perempuan yang sering berzina di masa lalunya (sekarang sudah bertaubat). Saya ambil contoh secara ekstrim, ada seorang laki-laki beriman ingin menikahi mantan pelacur (sudah bertaubat tapi belum berpakaian secara syar’i), apakah hal itu diperbolehkan? Atau sebaiknya laki-laki itu mencari yang lebih baik? Jazakumullahu khairon.
Jawaban Ustadz:
Ibnu Katsir mengatakan, “Dari ayat ini (An-nur: 3), Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal berpendapat bahwa akad nikah antara laki-laki yang menjaga kehormatan dan pelacur itu tidak sah selama dia (perempuan tersebut -ed) masih melacur dan belum bertaubat. Jika perempuan tersebut sudah bertaubat maka akad nikah sah, dan sebaliknya jika belum bertaubat maka tidak sah. Demikian juga akad nikah wanita merdeka yang menjaga kehormatan dengan laki-laki hidung belang itu tidak sah, kecuali jika orang tersebut (laki-laki tersebut -ed) sudah bertaubat dengan benar.” (Tafsir Ibnu Katsir 3/352).
Di samping itu, laki-laki tersebut harus bisa menjaga lisan agar jangan sampai mengungkit-ungkit masa lalu isterinya saat terjadi pertengkaran. Meskipun demikian, mencari yang lebih baik itu jelas lebih baik ditinjau dari banyak sisi.
Oleh: Ust. Abu Ukkasyah Aris Munandar
BOLEHKAH WANITA BEKERJA
Bismillah, walhamdulillah wash shalatu wassalamu ala rasulillah, wa’ala alihi washahbihi wa man waalah, amma ba’du.
Pertama: Islam adalah syariat yang diturunkan oleh Allah Sang Pencipta Manusia, hanya Dia-lah yang maha mengetahui seluk beluk ciptaan-Nya. Hanya Dia yang maha tahu mana yang baik dan memperbaiki hamba-Nya, serta mana yang buruk dan membahayakan mereka. Oleh karena itu, Islam menjadi aturan hidup manusia yang paling baik, paling lengkap dan paling mulia, Hanya Islam yang bisa mengantarkan manusia menuju kebaikan, kemajuan, dan kebahagiaan dunia akhirat. Allah Ta’ala berfirman:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَجِيبُوا لِلَّهِ وَلِلرَّسُولِ إِذَا دَعَاكُمْ لِمَا يُحْيِيكُمْ
“Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Penuhilah seruan Allah dan Rosul apabila dia menyerumu kepada sesuatu (ajaran) yang memberi kehidupan kepadamu“. (QS. Al-Anfal: 24).
Apakah Mencium Istri Tidak Membatalkan Wudhu?
Dari Aisyah radhiallaahu’anha bahwasanya Nabi shalallaahu ’alaihi wa sallam mencium salah seorang isteri beliau, kemudian keluar untuk melaksanakan shalat dan beliau tidak berwudhu lagi.
Hadits ini menjelaskan hukum tentang menyentuh wanita dan menciumnya (bagi suami-penj.); Apakah membatalkan wudhu atau tidak? Para ulama rahimahullah berbeda pendapat mengenainya:
Ada pendapat yang mengatakan bahwa menyentuh wanita membatalkan wudhu dalam kondisi apapun.
Ada pula pendapat yang mengatakan bahwa menyentuh wanita dengan syahwat, membatalkan wudhu dan jika tidak, maka tidak membatalkan.
Ada pula pendapat lain yang mengatakan bahwa hal itu tidak membatalkan wudhu secara mutlak (sama sekali), dan inilah pendapat yang rajih (kuat).
Yang dimaksud, bahwa seorang suami bila mencium isterinya, menyentuh tangannya atau menggenggamnya sementara tidak menyebabkannya keluar mani dan dia belum berhadats maka wudhu-nya tidak rusak (batal) baik baginya ataupun bagi isterinya.
Hal ini dikarenakan hukum asalnya adalah wudhu tetap berlaku seperti sedia kala hingga didapati dalil yang menyatakan bahwa wudhu tersebut sudah batal. Padahal tidak terdapat dalil, baik di dalam kitabullah maupun sunnah Rasulullah shalallaahu’alaihi wa sallam yang menyatakan bahwa menyentuh wanita membatalkan wudhu.
Maka berdasarkan hal ini, menyentuh wanita meskipun tanpa pelapis, dengan nafsu syahwat, menciumnya dan menggenggamnya; semua ini tidak membatalkan wudhu. Wallahu a’lam.
Kumpulan Fatwa-Fatwa Seputar Wanita dari Syaikh Ibnu Utsaimin, hal. 20.
Sumber: Fatwa-Fatwa Terkini Jilid 1, Penerbit Darul Haq.
Sumber: fatwaulama.wordpress.com
Menggabungkan puasa syawal dengan puasa senin kamis
Disebutkan dalam hadis riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim, Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,
إنما الأعمال بالنيات
“Sesungguhnya amal itu tergantung pada niat”
Jika seorang muslim niat puasa 6 hari bulan syawal, dan dia lakukan bertepatan dengan hari senin, kamis, atau ketika ayamul bidh (tanggal 13, 14, dan 15 bulan hijriyah) maka dia mendapatkan pahala sesuai dengan apa yang dia niatkan. Karena niat dalam amal semacam ini bisa digabungkan.
Adapun puasa qadha ramadhan maka hanya boleh dilakukan dengan satu niat, yaitu niat puasa qadha. Karena puasa qadha adalah pengganti puasa yang seharusnya dilakukan di bulan Ramadhan. Sebagaimana seseorang tidak boleh menggabungkan niat puasa ramadahan dengan niat puasa lainnya, demikian pula dia tidak boleh puasa qadha ramdhan bersamaan dengan niat puasa yang lain.
Sedangkan puasa sunah, kemudian digabungkan dengan niat untuk melakukan puasa yang lainnya karena puasa semacam ini memungkinkan untuk digabungkan niatnya. Sebagian ulama menyebutnya “At-Tasyrik fin Niyah” (menggabungkan niat).
Ibn Rajab mengatakan, “Jika ada orang yang menggabungkan niat wudhu dengan niat untuk mendinginkan anggota badan atau niat untuk menghilangkan najis atau kotoran yang menempel di badan maka wudhunya sah menurut keterangan Imam As-Syafi’i. Dan ini merupakan pendapat mayoritas ulama madzhab hambali. Karena tujuan semacam ini tidaklah haram, tidak pula makruh. Oleh karena itu, jika ada orang yang berwudhu dengan niat menghilangkan hadats dan sekaligus mengajarkan tata cara wudhu maka niatnya tidak membatalkan wudhunya. Karena Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam pernah melaksanakan shalat, sekaligus dengan niat mengajarkannya kepada para sahabat. Demikian pula ketika beliau berhaji, sebagaimana yang pernah beliau sabdakan,
خذوا عنِّي مناسِكَكُم
“Ambillah dariku cara pelaksanaan haji kalian”
Allahu a’lam.
* Fatwa Syaikh Abdurrahman As-Suhaim
Beliau adalah anggota Lembaga Dakwah dan Bimbingan Masyarakat di Riyadl. Beliau pernah berguru kepada Syaikh Ibn Utsaimin, Syaikh Abdullah Al-Jibrin, Dr. Abdul Karim Al-Hudhair, Dr. Nashir Al-Aql, dan beberapa jajaran ulama ahlus sunnah lainnya. Saat ini beliau aktif membina berbagai forum ilmiyah di internet, seperti saaid.net atau almeshkat.net.
Sumber: http://al-ershaad.com/vb4/showthread.php?t=1409
KE TAWADHUAN DAN KESEDERHANAAN PRESIDEN IRAN
Tuhan mencintai siapa yang merendah dalam kehidupan pribadinya !
TV Fox (AS) menanyakan pada Presiden Iran Ahmedi Najad; “Saat anda melihat di cermin setiap pagi, apa yang anda katakan pada diri anda?” Jawabnya: “Saya melihat orang di cermin itu dan mengatakan padanya:”Ingat, kau tak lebih dari seorang pelayan, hari di depanmu penuh dengan tanggung jawab yang berat, yaitu melayani bangsa Iran .”
Berikut adalah bagaimana penyiar menggambarkan dirinya. Ahmedi Najad, adalah presiden Iran yang membuat orang ternganga, karena pada saat pertama kali menduduki kantor kepresidenan Ia menyumbangkan seluruh karpet Iran Istana yang sangat tinggi nilai maupun harganya itu kepada masjid-masjid di Teheran dan menggantikannya dengan karpet biasa yang mudah dibersihkan.
Ia mengamati bahwa ada ruangan yang sangat besar untuk menerima dan menghormati tamu VIP, lalu ia memerintahkan untuk menutup ruang tersebut dan menanyakan pada protokoler untuk menggantinya dengan ruangan biasa dengan 2 kursi kayu, meski sederhana tetap terlihat impresive.
Di banyak kesempatan ia bercengkerama dengan petugas kebersihan di sekitar rumah dan kantor kepresidenannya.
Di bawah kepemimpinannya, saat ia meminta menteri-menteri nya untuk datang kepadanya dan menteri-menteri tersebut akan menerima sebuah dokumen yang ditandatangani yang berisikan arahan-arahan darinya, arahan tersebut terutama sekali menekankan para menteri-menterinya untuk tetap hidup sederhana dan disebutkan bahwa rekening pribadi maupun kerabat dekatnya akan diawasi, sehingga pada saat menteri-menteri tersebut berakhir masa jabatannya dapat meninggalkan kantornya dengan kepala tegak.
Langkah pertamanya adalah ia mengumumkan kekayaan dan propertinya yang terdiri dari Peugeot 504 tahun 1977, sebuah rumah sederhana warisan ayahnya 40 tahun yang lalu di sebuah daerah kumuh di Teheran. Rekening banknya bersaldo minimum, dan satu-satunya uang masuk adalah uang gaji bulanannya. Gajinya sebagai dosen di sebuah universitas hanya senilai US$ 250. Sebagai tambahan informasi, Presiden masih tinggal di rumahnya. Hanya itulah yang dimilikinya seorang presiden dari negara yang penting baik secara strategis, ekonomis, politis, belum lagi secara minyak dan pertahanan.
Bahkan ia tidak mengambil gajinya, alasannya adalah bahwa semua kesejahteraan adalah milik negara dan ia bertugas untuk menjaganya. Satu hal yang membuat kagum staf kepresidenan adalah tas yang selalu dibawa sang presiden tiap hari selalu berisikan sarapan; roti isi atau roti keju yang disiapkan istrinya dan memakannya dengan gembira, ia juga menghentikan kebiasaan menyediakan makanan yang dikhususkan untuk presiden.
Ia kerap mengadakan rapat dengan menteri-menterinya untuk mendapatkan info tentang kegiatan dan efisiensi yang sudah dilakukan, dan ia memotong protokoler istana sehingga menteri-menterinya dapat masuk langsung ke ruangannya tanpa ada hambatan. Ia juga menghentikan kebiasaan upacara-upacara seperti karpet merah, sesi foto, atau publikasi pribadi, atau hal-hal seperti itu saat mengunjungi berbagai tempat di negaranya.
Saat harus menginap di hotel, ia meminta diberikan kamar tanpa tempat tidur yg tidak terlalu besar karena ia tidak suka tidur di atas kasur, tetapi lebih suka tidur di lantai beralaskan karpet dan selimut.
Apakah perilaku tersebut merendahkan posisi presiden?
Lihat foto-foto berikut yang menegaskan penjelasan di atas.
Presiden Iran tidur di ruang tamu rumahnya sesudah lepas dari pengawal-pengawalnya yang selalu mengikuti kemanapun ia pergi. Menurut koran Wifaq, foto-foto yg diambil oleh adiknya tersebut, kemudian dipulikasikan oleh media masa di seluruh dunia, termasuk amerika.
Sepanjang sholat, anda dapat melihat bahwa ia tidak duduk di baris paling muka
Dan foto terakhir memperlihatkan ruang makan dimana presiden sedang menikmati makanannya.
Dan foto ini sebagai bentuk istiqomah atau ketaatannya dalam menjalankan syariat islam.(tidak mau berjabat tangan dg yg bukan muhrimnya)
100 Tokoh Terpengaruh sepanjang Masa
Berikut list 100 tokoh paling berpengaruh dalam sejarah.
2 Isaac Newton Fisikawan, pencetus Teori Gravitasi umum, Hukum gerak
3 Yesus / Nabi Isa Isa Al Masih Kristen
4 Siddhartha Gautama (Buddha) Pendiri agama Buddha
5 Kong Hu Cu Pendiri agama Kong Hu Cu
6 Santo Paulus Penyebar ajaran Kristen
7 Ts'ai Lun Penemu kertas
8 Johann Gutenberg Mengembangkan mesin cetak, mencetak Alkitab
9 Christopher Columbus Penjelajah, memimpin orang-orang Eropa ke Amerika
10 Albert Einstein Fisikawan, penemu Teori Relativitas
11 Louis Pasteur Ilmuwan, penemu Pasteurisasi
12 Galileo Galilei Astronom, secara akurat mengemukakan teori Heliosentris
13 Aristoteles Filsuf Yunani yang berpengaruh
14 Euclides Matematikawan, membuktikan tentang Geometri
15 Nabi Musa Nabi terbesar Yahudi
16 Charles Robert Darwin Biologis, mendeskripsikan teori Evolusi
17 Kaisar Qin Shi Huang-Di Kaisar Tiongkok
18 Augustus Caesar (Kaisar Agustus) Kaisar pertama Kekaisaran Romawi
19 Nicolaus Copernicus Astronom, salah satu tokoh Teori Heliosentris
20 Antoine Laurent Lavoisier Bapak Kimia modern, Filsuf dan Ekonom
21 Constantine yang Agung Kaisar Romawi yang menjadikan agama Kristen sebagai agama resmi negara
22 James Watt Mengembangkan Mesin uap
23 Michael Faraday Fisikawan, Kimiawan, menemukan Induksi Elektromagnetik
24 James Clerk Maxwell Fisikawan, penemu Spektrum Elektromagnetik
25 Martin Luther Pendiri agama Protestan dan aliran Lutheran
26 George Washington Presiden pertama Amerika Serikat
27 Karl Heinrich Marx Bapak Komunisme
28 Orville Wright dan Wilbur Wright Penemu Pesawat terbang
29 Genghis Khan Penakluk dari bangsa Mongol
30 Adam Smith Ekonom, pelopor Kapitalisme
31 Edward de Vere, 17th Earl of Oxford Kemungkinan menulis karya yang berkaitan dengan William Shakespeare
32 John Dalton Kimiawan, Fisikawan, penemu Teori Atom, Hukum Tekanan Parsial (Hukum Dalton)
33 Alexander yang Agung / Iskandar Zulkarnain Penakluk dari Makedonia
34 Kaisar Napoleon Bonaparte Penakluk dari bangsa Perancis
35 Thomas Alva Edison Penemu bola lampu dan Fonograf, dll.
36 Antony van Leeuwenhoek Ahli Mikroskop, mempelajari kehidupan mikroskopis
37 William Thomas Green Morton Pelopor Anestesiologi
38 Guglielmo Marconi Penemu Radio
39 Adolf Hitler Penakluk, memimpin Blok Poros dalam Perang Dunia II
40 Plato Filsuf Yunani
41 Oliver Cromwell Politikus Inggris dan pemimpin militer
42 Alexander Graham Bell Salah seorang penemu Telepon
43 Alexander Fleming Penemu Penisilin, memajukan Bakteriologi, Imunologi dan Kemoterapi
44 John Locke Filsuf dan Teolog liberal
45 Ludwig van Beethoven Komponis musik klasik
46 Werner Karl Heisenberg Pencetus Prinsip Ketidakpastian
47 Louis-Jacques-Mandé Daguerre Penemu/pelopor Fotografi
48 Simon Bolivar Pahlawan nasional dari Venezuela, Kolombia, Ekuador, Peru, dan Bolivia
49 René Descartes Filsuf Rasionalis dan matematikawan
50 Umar bin al-Khattab Khalifah Ar-Rasyidin kedua, memperluas Daulah Khilafah Islamiyah. Penerus cita-cita Nabi Muhammad SAW.
51 Paus Urbanus II Penyeru Perang Salib
52 Michelangelo Buonarroti Pelukis, pematung, arsitek
53 Asoka Raja India yang masuk dan mengembangkan agama Buddha
54 Santo Augustinus Teolog Kristen awal
55 William Harvey Penemu sirkulasi darah
56 Ernest Rutherford, 1st Baron Rutherford of Nelson Fisikawan
57 John Calvin Tokoh Reformasi Gereja, pendiri Calvinisme
58 Gregor Johann Mendel Penemu teori genetika
59 Max Karl Ernst Ludwig Planck Fisikawan, mengemukakan Termodinamika
60 Joseph Lister, 1st Baron Lister Pelaku penemuan Antiseptik yang secara besar mengurangi kematian akibat pembedahan
61 Nikolaus August Otto Penemu mesin pembakaran 4 tak
62 Francisco Pizarro Penakluk dari bangsa Spanyol yang menaklukkan Kerajaan Inka di Amerika Selatan
63 Hernando Cortes Penakluk dari bangsa Spanyol yang menaklukkan Meksiko
64 Thomas Jefferson Presiden ketiga AS
65 Ratu Isabella I Penguasa Spanyol, penyokong Cristopher Colombus
66 Joseph Stalin (Joseph Vissarionovich Dzugashvili Tokoh revolusioner dan penguasa Uni Soviet
67 Julius Caesar Penguasa Roma
68 Raja William I sang Penakluk Meletakkan pembangunan Inggris modern
69 Sigmund Freud Pendiri sekolah Freud untuk psikologi, ahli psikoanalisis
70 Edward Jenner Penemu vaksin cacar
71 Wilhelm Conrad Roentgen Penemu sinar X
72 Johann Sebastian Bach Komponis
73 Lao Tzu Pendiri Taoisme
74 Voltaire Penulis dan filsuf
75 Johannes Kepler Astronom penemu Hukum Kepler tentang pergerakan planet
76 Enrico Fermi Salah satu tokoh abad atom, Bapak Bom Atom
77 Leonhard Euler Fisikawan, matematikawan penemu Kalkulus Diferensial dan Integral serta Aljabar
78 Jean-Jacques Rousseau Filsuf dan pengarang Prancis
79 Niccolò Machiavelli Penulis Sang Pangeran (risalat politik yang berpengaruh)
80 Thomas Robert Malthus Ekonom penulis Esai Prinsip Populasi dalam Pengaruhnya pada Kemajuan Masa Depan pada Masyarakat
81 John Fitzgerald Kennedy Presiden AS yang mendirikan "Program Luar Angkasa Apollo"
82 Gregory Goodwin Pincus Endokrinolog, menemukan pil KB
83 Mani (en) Nabi Iran abad ke-3, Pendiri Manicheanisme
84 Vladimir Ilyich Lenin (Vladimir Ilyich Ulyanov) Tokoh revolusioner dan pemimpin Rusia
85 Kaisar Sui Wen Menyatukan Tiongkok, pendiri Dinasti Sui
86 Vasco da Gama Navigator, penemu rute pelayaran Eropa ke India
87 Raja Cyrus yang Agung Pendiri kekaisaran Persia
88 Tsar Peter yang Agung Mendekatkan Rusia kepada Eropa
89 Mao Zedong (Mao Tse-tung) Bapak Maoisme, komunisme Tiongkok
90 Sir Francis Bacon Filsuf, menggambarkan secara induktif metode ilmiah
91 Henry Ford Pembuat mobil model T
92 Meng Tse Filsuf, pendiri sekolah Konfusianisme
93 Zarathustra (Zoroaster) Pendiri Zoroastrianisme
94 Ratu Elizabeth I Ratu Inggris, memperbaiki Gereja Inggris setelah Ratu Mary
95 Mikhail Sergeyevich Gorbachev Perdana Menteri Rusia yang mengakhiri Komunisme di Uni Soviet dan Eropa Timur
96 Raja Menes Menyatukan Mesir Hulu dan Hilir
97 Kaisar Charlemagne Kaisar Romawi Suci
98 Homer Penyair epik
99 Kaisar Justinianus I Kaisar Romawi Timur, menaklukkan kembali sebagian Kekaisaran Romawi Barat
100 Mahavira Pendiri Jainisme
Siapakah Orang Yang Beruntung Selalu Di Doakan Para Malaikat
1. Orang yang sedang duduk menunggu waktu shalat. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Tidaklah salah seorang diantara kalian yang duduk menunggu shalat, selama ia berada dalam keadaan suci, kecuali para malaikat akan mendoakannya 'Ya Allah, ampunilah ia. Ya Allah sayangilah ia'" (Imam Muslim ) meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah keadaan suci, kecuali para malaikat akan mendoakannya 'Ya Allah, ampunilah ia. Ya Allah sayangilah ia'" (Imam Muslim meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra., Shahih Muslim no. 469)
2. Orang - orang yang berada di shaf barisan depan di dalam shalat berjamaah. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Sesungguhnya Allah dan para malaikat-Nya bershalawat kepada (orang - orang) yang berada pada shaf - shaf terdepan" (Imam Abu Dawud (dan Ibnu Khuzaimah) dari Barra' bin 'Azib ra., hadits ini dishahihkan oleh Syaikh Al Albani dalam Shahih Sunan Abi Dawud I/130)
3. Orang - orang yang menyambung shaf pada sholat berjamaah (tidak membiarkan sebuah kekosongan di dalam shaf). Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Sesungguhnya Allah dan para malaikat selalu bershalawat kepada orang - orang yang menyambung shaf - shaf" (Para Imam yaitu Ahmad, Ibnu Majah, Ibnu Khuzaimah, Ibnu Hibban dan Al Hakim meriwayatkan dari Aisyah ra., hadits ini dishahihkan oleh Syaikh Al Albani dalam Shahih At Targhib wat Tarhib I/272)
4. Para malaikat mengucapkan 'Amin' ketika seorang Imam selesai membaca Al Fatihah. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Jika seorang Imam membaca 'ghairil maghdhuubi 'alaihim waladh dhaalinn', maka ucapkanlah oleh kalian 'aamiin', karena barangsiapa ucapannya itu bertepatan dengan ucapan malaikat, maka ia akan diampuni dosanya yang masa lalu". (Imam Bukhari meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra., Shahih Bukhari no. 782)
5. Orang yang duduk di tempat shalatnya setelah melakukan shalat. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Para malaikat akan selalu bershalawat ( berdoa ) kepada salah satu diantara kalian selama ia ada di dalam tempat
shalat dimana ia melakukan shalat, selama ia belum batal wudhunya, (para malaikat) berkata, 'Ya Allah ampunilah dan sayangilah ia (Imam Ahmad meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah, Al Musnad no. 8106, Syaikh Ahmad Syakir menshahihkan hadits ini)
6. Orang - orang yang melakukan shalat shubuh dan 'ashar secara berjama'ah. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Para malaikat berkumpul pada saat shalat shubuh lalu para malaikat ( yang menyertai hamba) pada malam hari (yang sudah bertugas malam hari hingga shubuh) naik (ke langit), dan malaikat pada siang hari tetap tinggal. Kemudian mereka berkumpul lagi pada waktu shalat 'ashar dan malaikat yang ditugaskan pada siang hari (hingga shalat 'ashar) naik (ke langit) sedangkan malaikat yang bertugas pada malam hari tetap berkumpul lagi pada waktu shalat 'ashar dan malaikat yang ditugaskan pada siang hari (hingga shalat 'ashar) naik (ke langit) sedangkan malaikat yang bertugas pada malam hari tetap tinggal, lalu Allah bertanya kepada mereka, 'Bagaimana kalian meninggalkan hambaku?', mereka menjawab, 'Kami datang sedangkan mereka sedang melakukan shalat dan kami tinggalkan mereka sedangkan mereka sedang melakukan shalat, maka ampunilah mereka pada hari kiamat'" (Imam Ahmad meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra., Al Musnad no. 9140, hadits ini dishahihkan oleh Syaikh Ahmad Syakir)
7. Orang yang mendoakan saudaranya tanpa sepengetahuan orang yang didoakan. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Doa seorang muslim untuk saudaranya yang dilakukan tanpa sepengetahuan orang yang didoakannya adalah doa yang akan dikabulkan. Pada kepalanya ada seorang malaikat yang menjadi wakil baginya, setiap kali dia berdoa untuk saudaranya dengan sebuah kebaikan, maka malaikat tersebut berkata 'aamiin dan engkaupun mendapatkan apa yang ia dapatkan'" (Diriwayatkan oleh Imam Muslim dari Ummud Darda' ra., Shahih Muslim no. 2733)
8. Orang - orang yang berinfak. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Tidak satu hari pun dimana pagi harinya seorang hamba ada padanya kecuali 2 malaikat turun kepadanya, salah satu diantara keduanya berkata, 'Ya Allah, berikanlah ganti bagi orang yang berinfak'. Dan lainnya berkata, 'Ya Allah, hancurkanlah harta orang yang pelit'" (Imam Bukhari dan Imam Muslim meriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah ra., Shahih Bukhari no. 1442 dan Shahih Muslim no. 1010)
9. Orang yang sedang makan sahur. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Sesungguhnya Allah dan para malaikat-Nya bershalawat (berdoa ) kepada orang - orang yang sedang makan sahur" Insya Allah termasuk disaat sahur untuk puasa "sunnah" (Imam Ibnu Hibban dan Imam Ath Thabrani, meriwayaatkan dari Abdullah bin Umar ra., hadits ini dishahihkan oleh Syaikh Al Albani dalam Shahih At Targhiib wat Tarhiib I/519)
10. Orang yang sedang menjenguk orang sakit. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Tidaklah seorang mukmin menjenguk saudaranya kecuali Allah akan mengutus 70.000 malaikat untuknya yang akan bershalawat kepadanya di waktu siang kapan saja hingga sore dan di waktu malam kapan saja hingga shubuh" (Imam Ahmad malaikat untuknya yang akan bershalawat kepadanya di waktu siang kapan saja hingga sore dan di waktu malam kapan saja hingga
shubuh"
11. Orang yang tidur dalam keadaan bersuci. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Barangsiapa yang tidur dalam keadaan suci, maka malaikat akan bersamanya di dalam pakaiannya. Dia tidak akan bangun hingga Malaikat berdoa 'Ya Allah, ampunilah hambamu si suha karena tidur dalam keadaan suci". (Imam Ibnu Hibban meriwayatkan dari Abdullah bin Umar ra., hadits ini dishahihkan oleh Syaikh Al Albani dalam Shahih At Targhib wat Tarhib I/37)
Kriteria Do'a orang yang Mustajab
Orang-orang yang Mustajab Do’anya
Berdasarkan hadits-hadits yang akan disampaikan berikut ini, terdapat tujuh kelompok orang yang do’anya pasti diijabah oleh Allah, mereka itu ialah; 1) Orang yang dizhalimi, 2) Orang yang sedang bepergian, 3) Orang Tua kepada anaknya, 4) orang yang shaum, 5) Pemimpin yang adil, 6) Seorang Muslim kepada saudaranya, 7) Anak kepada orang tuanya.
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ثَلاَثُ دَعَوَاتٍ مُسْتَجَابَاتٌ لَا شَكَّ فِيهِنَّ دَعْوَةُ الْمَظْلُومِ وَدَعْوَةُ الْمُسَافِرِ وَدَعْوَةُ الْوَالِدِ عَلَى وَلَدِهِ
Dari Abi Hurairah ra berkata, bersabda Rasulullah saw: Tiga do’a yang diijabah, tidak ada keraguan padanya: Do’a orang yang dizhalim, do’a orang yang sedang bepergian, dan do’a orangtua terhadap anaknya. (HR. Ahmad, Tirmidzi dan Ibnu Majah)
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا تُرَدُّ دَعْوَتُهُمْ الصَّائِمُ حَتَّى يُفْطِرَ وَالْإِمَامُ الْعَادِلُ وَدَعْوَةُ الْمَظْلُومِ يَرْفَعُهَا اللَّهُ فَوْقَ الْغَمَامِ وَيَفْتَحُ لَهَا أَبْوَابَ السَّمَاءِ وَيَقُولُ الرَّبُّ وَعِزَّتِي لَأَنْصُرَنَّكِ وَلَوْ بَعْدَ حِينٍ
Dari Abi Hurairah ra berkata, bersabda Rasulullah saw: Tiga orang yang do’anya tidak ditolak, do’a orang yang shaum sampai ia berbuka, do’a pemimpin yang adil, dan do’a orang yang dizhalimi, Allah mengangkatnya di atas mega. Dan Allah membukakan baginyapintu-pintu lamhit, dan berfirman, demi kemuliaan-Ku, Aku akan menolongmu walaupun sampai akhir zaman. (H.R. Ahmad, Tirmidzi, dan Ibnu Majah)
يَقُولُ دَعْوَةُ الْمَرْءِ الْمُسْلِمِ لِأَخِيهِ بِظَهْرِ الْغَيْبِ مُسْتَجَابَةٌ
Do’a seorang muslim kepada saudaranya di belakangnya (dari jauh) diijabah (HR. Muslim)
أَرْبَعٌ دَعْوَتُهُمْ مُسْتَجَابَةٌ : الإِمامُ اْلعادِلُ , والرجل يدعو لأخيه بظهر الغيب , و دعوة المظلوم , و رجل يدعو لوالديه (رواه أبو نعيم عن واثلة)
Empat orang yang do’anya diijabah; pemimpin yang adil, seseorang yang mendo’akan saudaranya di belakangnya, do’a orang yang dizhalimi, dan seorang yang mendo’akan orang tuanya. (HR. Abu Nu’aim dari Watsilah)
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ لَيَرْفَعُ الدَّرَجَةَ لِلْعَبْدِ الصَّالِحِ فِي الْجَنَّةِ فَيَقُولُ يَا رَبِّ أَنَّى لِي هَذِهِ فَيَقُولُ بِاسْتِغْفَارِ وَلَدِكَ لَكَ (احمد:10202)
Dari Abu Hurairah ra berkata, Rasulullah saw bersabda, Sesungguhnya Allah Azza wa jalla mengangkat derajat seorang hamba yang shalih di surga. Lalu si hamba itu bertanya, Ya Rabbi, saya mendapatkan semua ini dari mana? Maka Allah menjawab, Berkat permohonan ampunan anakmu bagimu. (HR. Ahmad)
1. Orang Yang dizhalimi
Do’a orang yang dizhalim itu diangkat di atas mega dan Allah membukakan baginya pintu-pintu langit, dan Dia berfirman, Demi kemulian-Ku Aku akan menolongmu walau sampai akhir jaman.
Bahkan ada hadits yang menerangkan bahwa idak ada hijab antara Allah dengan orang yang dizhalimi ketika ia berdo’a kepada Allah. Dan do’a orang yang dizhalimi itu tetap akan diijabah meskipun ia orang yang durhaka. Oleh karena itu, berhati-hatilah terhadap perbuatan zhalim, termasuk kepada istri dan anak, karena do’a mereka besar kemungkinan akan diijabah oleh Allah.
2. Orang Yang Sedang Bepergian
Ketika sedang bepergian, sebaiknya kita mendo’akan keluarga yang ditinggalkan, karena termasuk orang yang besar harapan diijabah.
3. Orang tua kepada Anaknya
Do’a seorang ibu, pasti diijabah walaupun ia mendo’akan kejelekan bagi anaknya.
Sebagai ibrah, dapat kita perhatikan tentang kisah Juraij, seorang yang ahli ibadah, ketika sedang shalat, ia dipanggil oleh ibunya, namun ia berpikir lebih baik melanjutkan shalatnya terlebih dahulu, lalu memenuhi panggilan ibunya. Namun ternyata ibunya tidak ridho, merasa sakit hati dan ia berdo’a kepada Allah, “Yaa Allah, janganlah Engkau matikan dia sebelum ia dipermalukan”. Ternyata do’a ibu tersebut diijabah oleh Allah. Pada suatu hari, ketia Juraij sedang berada di rumahnya, datang kepadanya seorang wanita binal menggodanya, namun Juraij menolaknya. Wanita tersebut, merasa sakit hati, lalu ia berzinah dengan seorang penggembala, lalu ia hamil dan melahirkan seorang bayi, dan ia umumkan kepada masyarakat bahwa bayinya itu merupakan hasil perbuatan mesumnya dengan Juraij. Tentu saja Juraiz sulit membantah, sehingga masyarakat marah kepadanya dan menghancurkan rumahnya. Lalu Juraij shlat dua rakaat dan mohon kepada Allah agar ditunjukkan kebenarannya. Lalu Juraij mendatangi anak tersebut dan bertanya kepadanya, siapa ayahmu? Bayi tersebut menjawab, ayahku adalah seorang penggembala.
4. Orang Yang Shaum sampai berbuka
Orang yang sedang shaum, baik shaum wajib ataupun sunat, do’anya akan diijabah oleh Allah sehingga ia berbuka dari shaumnya.
5. Pemimpin yang Adil
Pemimpin yang adil itu selain membawan mashlahat bagi rakyatnya, ia pun do’anya diijabah oleh Allah.
6. Seorang Muslim kepada saudaranya
Dalam tradisi kita, meminta dido’akan itu suka dihadapan kita. Padahal justru do’a yang diijabah itu adalah do’a dari sesama muslim tanpa sepengetahuan dari orang yang dido’akannya.
Biasanya do’a yang diucapkan di hadapan orang yang dido’akannya memliki kecenderungan pamrih. Sementara doa yang dipanjatkan dibelakang rang yang dido’akannya menunjukkan kualitas keikhlasan do’anya serta adanya hubungan batin di antara mereka.
7. Anak yang Mendo’akan orang tuanya
Do’a seorang anak kepada orang tuanya memiliki kualitas yang sama dengan do’a orang tua kepada anaknya. Do’a seorang anak kepada orang tuanya didasari dengan kecintaan. Sehingga ketika berdo’a dipenuhi dengan keikhlasan dan kekhusuan.
Saat-saat Mustajabnya Do’a
1. Dua pertiga malam. Berdasarkan hadits,
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ يَنْزِلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى كُلَّ لَيْلَةٍ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ الدُّنْيَا حِينَ يَبْقَى ثُلُثُ اللَّيْلِ الْآخِرُ يَقُولُ مَنْ يَدْعُونِي فَأَسْتَجِيبَ لَهُ مَنْ يَسْأَلُنِي فَأُعْطِيَهُ مَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرُنِي فَأَغْفِرَ لَهُ (البخاري:1077)
Dari Abu Hurairah ra berkata, Rasulullah saw bersabda, Tuhan kita Yang Maha Berkah dan Maha Tinggi turun ke langit dunia setiap malam, pada sepertiga malam terakhir dan berfirman, Barangsiapa yang berdo’a kepada-Ku pasti Aku kabulkan, barangsiapa meminta kepada-Ku pasti Aku beri, dan barangsiapa yang memohon ampunan-Ku pasti Aku ampuni . (HR. Bukhari)
2. Antara adzan dan qomat
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ الدَّعْوَةُ لَا تُرَدُّ بَيْنَ الْأَذَانِ وَالْإِقَامَةِ فَادْعُوا (احمد : 12878)
Dari Anas bin Malik ra berkata, Rasulullah saw bersabda, Do’a antara adzan dan qomat tidak ditolak, maka berdo’alah kamu. (HR. Ahmad)
3. Waktu Jum’at
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ذَكَرَ يَوْمَ الْجُمُعَةِ فَقَالَ فِيهِ سَاعَةٌ لَا يُوَافِقُهَا عَبْدٌ مُسْلِمٌ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ يُصَلِّي يَسْأَلُ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى شَيْئًا إِلَّا أَعْطَاهُ إِيَّاهُ وَأَشَارَ بِيَدِهِ يُقَلِّلُهَا (البخاري : 883)
Dari Abu Hurairah ra bahwa Rasulullah saw menerangkan bahwa pada hari Jum’at ada satu waktu yang seorang muslim berdo’a kepada Allah Ta’ala dalam shalatnya bertepatan dengan waktu itu, pasti Allah akan memenuhinya. Nabi berisyarat dengan tangannya, menimbang-nimbangnya. (HR. Bukhari)
4. Sesudah Shalat Fardhu
عَنْ أَبِي أُمَامَةَ قَالَ قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَيُّ الدُّعَاءِ أَسْمَعُ قَالَ جَوْفَ اللَّيْلِ الْآخِرِ وَدُبُرَ الصَّلَوَاتِ الْمَكْتُوبَاتِ (الترمذي :3421)
Dari Abu Umamah ia berkata, Rasul ditanya, Ya Rasulallah, do’a yang manakah yang akan didengar (oleh Allah), beliau menjawab, ketika tengah malam terakhir dan setiap selesai shalat yang wajib. (HR. Tirmidzi)
Tiga yang pertama, saat-saat mustajab do’a, dilakukan dalam shalat. Yaitu ketika shalat tahajud yang dilakukan pada dua pertiga malam, ketika shalat sunat setelah adzan sebelum qomat, dan ketika sholat jum’at. Berdasarkan firman Allah,
وَاسْتَعِينُوا بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلَاةِ وَإِنَّهَا لَكَبِيرَةٌ إِلَّا عَلَى الْخَاشِعِينَ (البقرة:45)
Adapun kesempatan kita untuk berdo’a dalam shalat tersebut dilakukan ketika sujud dan setelah do’a tasyahud akhir. Rasulullah saw bersabda:
أَلَا وَإِنِّي نُهِيتُ أَنْ أَقْرَأَ الْقُرْآنَ رَاكِعًا أَوْ سَاجِدًا فَأَمَّا الرُّكُوعُ فَعَظِّمُوا فِيهِ الرَّبَّ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَأَمَّا السُّجُودُ فَاجْتَهِدُوا فِي الدُّعَاءِ فَقَمِنٌ أَنْ يُسْتَجَابَ لَكُمْ (مسلم)
Ingatlah, sesungguhnya aku dilarang membaca al-Qur’an sambil ruku’ atau sujud. Pada waktu ruku’ maka agungkanlah Allah Azza wa Jalla. Adapun pada waktu sujud bersungguh-sungguhlah berdo’a, besar harapan do’a kamu akan diijabah. (HR. Muslim)
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ أَقْرَبُ مَا يَكُونُ الْعَبْدُ مِنْ رَبِّهِ وَهُوَ سَاجِدٌ فَأَكْثِرُوا الدُّعَاءَ (مسلم)
Dari Abu Hurairah ra berkata, Rasulullah saw bersabda, Saat yang paling dekat seseorang dengan Tuhannya, ketika ia sujud, maka perbanyaklah olehmu do’a. (HR. Muslim)
إِذَا فَرَغَ أَحَدُكُمْ مِنْ التَّشَهُّدِ الْآخِرِ فَلْيَتَعَوَّذْ بِاللَّهِ مِنْ أَرْبَعٍ مِنْ عَذَابِ جَهَنَّمَ وَمِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ وَمِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَحْيَا وَالْمَمَاتِ وَمِنْ شَرِّ الْمَسِيحِ الدَّجَّالِ (مسلم : 926)
Apabila seseorang di antara kamu selesai tasyahud akhir, maka berlindung dirilah kepada Allah dari empat perkara; dari azab jahannam, dari gangguan waktu hidup dan mati, dan dari kejahatan al-masiih al-dajjal. (HR. Bukhari dan Muslim dari Abi Hurairah.
Do’a-do’a yang diajarkan Oleh Rasul dalam shalat (ketika sujud atau setelah tasyahhud akhir)
1. عَنْ عَائِشَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَخْبَرَتْهُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ يَدْعُو فِي الصَّلَاةِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَسِيحِ الدَّجَّالِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَحْيَا وَفِتْنَةِ الْمَمَاتِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْمَأْثَمِ وَالْمَغْرَمِ فَقَالَ لَهُ قَائِلٌ مَا أَكْثَرَ مَا تَسْتَعِيذُ مِنْ الْمَغْرَمِ فَقَالَ إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ إِذَا غَرِمَ حَدَّثَ فَكَذَبَ وَوَعَدَ فَأَخْلَفَ (البخاري :789)
Dari Aisyah, Istri Rasulullah saw, ia mengabarkan bahwasanya Rasulullah saw pernah berdo’a dalam shalatnya, allaahumma innii a’uudzu bika …, “Ya Allah aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari siksa kubur, dan aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari finah al-masih al-Dajjal, aku berlindung kepadamu dari finah hidup dan fitnah mati, aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari perbuatan dosa dan tenggelam dalam hutang.
Sesungguhnya seorang yang berhutang biasanya kalau ditagih, bicaranya suka dusta,janjinya suka dikianati.
2. عَنْ شَدَّادِ بْنِ أَوْسٍ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ يَقُولُ فِي صَلَاتِهِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الثَّبَاتَ فِي الْأَمْرِ وَالْعَزِيمَةَ عَلَى الرُّشْدِ وَأَسْأَلُكَ شُكْرَ نِعْمَتِكَ وَحُسْنَ عِبَادَتِكَ وَأَسْأَلُكَ قَلْبًا سَلِيمًا وَلِسَانًا صَادِقًا وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا تَعْلَمُ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا تَعْلَمُ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُكَ لِمَا تَعْلَمُ (النسائي: 1287)
Dari Syaddad bin ‘Aus bahwasanya Rasulullah saw pernah berdo’a dalam shalatnya, allaahumma innii as-aluka …, “Ya Allah aku memohon kepada-Mu ketetapan dalam urusanku,
3. عَنْ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الصِّدِّيقِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلِّمْنِي دُعَاءً أَدْعُو بِهِ فِي صَلَاتِي قَالَ قُلْ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي ظَلَمْتُ نَفْسِي ظُلْمًا كَثِيرًا وَلَا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ فَاغْفِرْ لِي مَغْفِرَةً مِنْ عِنْدِكَ وَارْحَمْنِي إِنَّك أَنْتَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (البخاري :790)
Dari Abu baker al-Shiddiq, ia pernah berkata kepada Rasul, “Ajarilah aku suatu do’a yang akan aku panjatkan dalam shalatku! Rasul menjawab, bacalah, Allaahumma innii zhalamtu … “Ya Allah aku telah menzhalimi diriku sendiri dengan kezhaliman yang besar, Tidak ada dzat yang dapat mengampuni seluruh dosa kecuali Engkau, maka ampunilah aku dengan ampunan dari-Mu dan rahmatilah aku, sesungguhnya Engkau yang Maha Pengampun dan Maha Penyayang.
4. عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ فَقَدْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَيْلَةً مِنْ الْفِرَاشِ فَالْتَمَسْتُهُ فَوَقَعَتْ يَدِي عَلَى بَطْنِ قَدَمَيْهِ وَهُوَ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ وَهُمَا مَنْصُوبَتَانِ وَهُوَ يَقُولُ اللَّهُمَّ أَعُوذُ بِرِضَاكَ مِنْ سَخَطِكَ وَبِمُعَافَاتِكَ مِنْ عُقُوبَتِكَ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْكَ لَا أُحْصِي ثَنَاءً عَلَيْكَ أَنْتَ كَمَا أَثْنَيْتَ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ (مسلم : 751)
Dari abu Hurairah, dari Aisyah, ia berkata, pada suatu malam, akau kehilangan Rasulullah saw dari tempat tidur, maka aku mencarinya, lalu dua tanganku mengenai kedua telapak kakinya yang lagi berdiri tegak (sedang sujud), sedangkan beliau sedang berada di masjid, waktu itu beliau berdo’a, allaahumma a’uudzu biridhaaka …, Yaa Allah aku berlindung dengan keridhan-Mu dari kemurkaan-Mu dan dengan ampunan-Mu dari siksa-Mu, aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari-Mu, tidak terhitung pujian kepada-Mu, Engkau sebagaiman yang Engkau sanjungkan terhadap dari-Mu.
5. عَنْ أَبى هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِلَى الصَّلَاةِ وَقُمْنَا مَعَهُ فَقَالَ أَعْرَابِيٌّ وَهُوَ فِي الصَّلَاةِ اللَّهُمَّ ارْحَمْنِي وَمُحَمَّدًا وَلَا تَرْحَمْ مَعَنَا أَحَدًا فَلَمَّا سَلَّمَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لِلْأَعْرَابِيِّ لَقَدْ تَحَجَّرْتَ وَاسِعًا يُرِيدُ رَحْمَةَ اللَّهِ (احمد:7469)
Dari Abu hurairah, ia berkata, Rasulullah saw berdiri untuk melaksanakan shalat, maka kami pun berdiri bersamanya. Seorang arab berdo’a dalam shalat tersebut, yaa Allah rahmatilah saya dan nabi Muhammad, dan janganlah kau berikan rahmat bersama kami kepada yang lainnya, setelah selesai salam, beliau berkata kepada orang arab tersebut, kamu ini serakah, masih banyak orang yang mengharapkan rahmat Allah.
Dzikir dan Do’a Setelah Shalat Fardhu
6. عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ قَالَ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا انْصَرَفَ مِنْ صَلَاتِهِ اسْتَغْفَرَ ثَلَاثًا وَقَالَ اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ السَّلَامُ وَمِنْكَ السَّلَامُ تَبَارَكْتَ ذَا الْجَلَالِ وَالْإِكْرَامِ قَالَ الْوَلِيدُ فَقُلْتُ لِلْأَوْزَاعِيِّ كَيْفَ الْاسْتِغْفَارُ قَالَ تَقُولُ أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ (مسلم : 931)
Dari Tsauban, ia berkata, Apablia Rasulullah saw telah selesai dari shalat fardhunya, beliau beristighfar sebanyak tiga kali, lalu beliau membaca, Allaahumma antas salaam, Ya Allah Engkaulah Yang Maha Selamat, dan dari-Mulah keselamatan, Maha berkah Engkau Dzat Yang memiliki Keagungan dan Kemuliaan. Al-Walid berkata, aku bertanya kepada al-Auza’I, bagaimanakah cara mengucapkan istighfarnya? Ia menjawab, astaghfirullah astaghfirullah. (Muslim no. 931)
7. عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ سَبَّحَ اللَّهَ فِي دُبُرِ كُلِّ صَلَاةٍ ثَلَاثًا وَثَلَاثِينَ وَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ ثَلَاثًا وَثَلَاثِينَ وَكَبَّرَ اللَّهَ ثَلَاثًا وَثَلَاثِينَ فَتْلِكَ تِسْعَةٌ وَتِسْعُونَ وَقَالَ تَمَامَ الْمِائَةِ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ غُفِرَتْ خَطَايَاهُ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ مِثْلَ زَبَدِ الْبَحْرِ (مسلم :939)
Dari Abu Hurairah, dari Rasulullah saw, belaiau bersabda, barang siapa yang bertasbih setiap selesai shalat sebanyak 33 kali, lalu bertahmid sebanyak 33 kali dan bertakbir sebnayak 33 kali, itu semua menjadi 99 kali, ia berkata, dan sempurna menjadi 100 dengan laa ilaa ha illallaah … (tidak ada tuhan melainkan Allah yang Maha Tunggal, tiada sekutu bagi-Nya, bagi-Nya kekuasaan dan bagi-Nya pujian dan Dia Maha Berkuasa atas segala sesuatu) pasti dosa-dosanya akan diampuni walaupun sebanyak buih di lautan. (H.R. Muslim no. 939)
8. إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ يَتَعَوَّذُ مِنْهُنَّ دُبُرَ الصَّلَاةِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ الْجُبْنِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ أَنْ أُرَدَّ إِلَى أَرْذَلِ الْعُمُرِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الدُّنْيَا وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ
Sesungguhnya Rasulullah saw suka berlindung kepada Allah setiap selesai shalat dengan do’a, Allaahumma innii a’uudzubika … (Ya Allah, aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari … dan aku berlindung ekpada-Mu dari dikembalikan kepada umur yang hina dan aku berlindung kepada-mu dari fitnah di dunia dan aku berlindung kepada-Mu dari siksa kubur)
9. عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ وَقَالَ يَا مُعَاذُ وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لَأُحِبُّكَ وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لَأُحِبُّكَ فَقَالَ أُوصِيكَ يَا مُعَاذُ لَا تَدَعَنَّ فِي دُبُرِ كُلِّ صَلَاةٍ تَقُولُ اللَّهُمَّ أَعِنِّي عَلَى ذِكْرِكَ وَشُكْرِكَ وَحُسْنِ عِبَادَتِكَ
Dari Mua’adz bin Jabal, bahwasanya Rasulullah saw memegang tangannya lalu bersabda, wahai Mu’adz, demi Allah sungguh aku menyayangimu, demi Allah sungguh aku menyayangimu, aku akan berwasiat kepadamuya Mu’adz, janganlah kau tinggalkan setiap selesai shalat bacaan, allaahumma a-‘innii ‘alaa dzikrika … (Yaa Allah tolonglah aku untuk senantiasa mengingat-Mu, untuk senantiasa syukur kepada-Mu dan untuk senantiasa baik dalam mengabdi kepada-Mu
Kisah Istri Sholehah Yang Selingkuh Karena Khilaf Harta Dan Fisik Akibat Chating di Facebook
Sidiq kesehariannya bekerja diluar rumah. Ia berangkat pada pagi hari dan pulang pada sore hari. Anisah tinggal dirumah sendirian. Untuk menghibur hati sang istri dan teman dikala kesepian Sidiq membelikan Anisah komputer. Komputer tersebut diletakkan didalam kamar dan disambungkan padanya internet. Awalnya Anisah tidak tahu apa-apa tentang komputer. Sidiqlah yang mengajarkan cara penggunaan komputer. Hingga pada akhirnya Anisah sudah biasa menggunakan komputer sendiri dengan baik.
Sehabis menyelesaikan pekerjaan rumah, Anisah memanfaatkan waktunya didepan komputer, mengakses berita dan mengikuti perkembangan dunia Islam. Waktu pun terus berjalan dan kehidupan mereka tetap harmonis dan tentram. Sehingga sampai pada suatu hari, Anisah masuk ruang chating dan disanalah ia mulai berkenalan dengan banyak orang. Awalnya hanya tanya jawab tentang nama, tempat tinggal, sehingga karena sudah keasyikan pembicaraan menjadi panjang dan lebar. Telah banyak teman dan kenalan Anisah di ruang chating. Dan setiap hari sehabis pekerjaan rumah, Anisah lebih banyak menghabiskan waktunya untuk chating.
Hingga pada suatu ketika, Anisah berkenalan dengan seorang pemuda di ruang chating, namanya Fatih. Chating mereka lakukan dengan menggunakan kamera. Sehingga diantara mereka saling melihat. Awalnya pembicaran mereka hanya berkisar tanya nama, tempat tinggal dan lainnya. Namun chating ini terus berlangsung setiap hari. Sehingga timbullah rasa suka dihati Fatih pada Anisah. Ia mulai bermanis kata dan merayu. Fatih mulai berkata-kata yang membuat tersentuh hati Anisah. Setan pun tak tinggal diam. Membisikkan kedalam hati Anisah hal-hal yang tidak baik. Anisah berusaha untuk menolak dan melawannya. Namun karena mereka chating setiap hari, dengan saling melihat, akhirnya sedikit demi sedikit timbullah dihati Anisah perasaan suka pada Fatih. Sebenarnya Fatih menyukai Anisah hanya karena kecantikan wajahnya saja, rasa suka yang berlandaskan pada hasrat nafsu. Dan akhirnya Anisah juga terpedaya dengan kata-kata dan ketampanan Fatih yang menjadi teman chatingnya setiap hari tersebut.
Chating itupun terus berlangsung. Dan Sidiq tidak menaruh curiga pada Anisah. Karena ia sangat percaya pada Anisah. Dan Anisah pun sangat pandai menyimpan rahasia. Namun sesuatu yang busuk bagaimanapun pintar menyimpan akan ketahuan juga baunya. Akhirnya Sidiq mulai curiga dengan gelagat Anisah, sehingga setelah ia selidiki akhirnya ia mengetahui bahwa Anisah telah menjalin hubungan gelap dengan seorang pemuda di ruang chating. Fatih sangat marah dan akhirnya ia menjual komputer tersebut. Dan memperingatkan Anisah untuk segera bertobat pada Allah Swt. dan meninggalkan pemuda tersebut. Anisah pun mengakui kesalahannya.
Namun, karena hati telah diberikan pada syetan dan hawa nafsu selama ini, Anisah merasa masih sulit menghilangkan bayangan Fatih dari pikirannya. Hatinya telah terpaut pada Fatih. Sehingga tanpa diketahui oleh Sidiq, Anisah menghubungi Fatih lewat telpon. Ia menceritakan apa yang terjadi dengan dirinya pada Fatih dan tentang perasaannya pada Fatih. Rupanya Fatih telah berhasil menjaring mangsanya. Iapun memanfaatkan kesempatan tersebut, ia mulai merayu dan menggombal. Ia berkata,
“Kalau kamu menyukai dan mencintai saya, tinggalkanlah suamimu! Minta cerailah darinya! Saya akan datang untuk melamarmu dan kamu akan hidup tentram dan bahagia dengan saya.”
Anisah yang telah goyah dan lemah imannya ini mulai terpedaya dengan bujuk rayu dan janji-janji Fatih. Ia telah dipengaruhi oleh syetan dan nafsu, ia lebih memilih Fatih dari pada suaminya. Anisah tidak sadar bahwa syetan dan nafsu sedang menipunya dan ingin menghancurkan dirinya dan kehidupan rumah tangganya.
Akhirnya, Anisah minta cerai pada Sidiq. Dan terjadilah perceraian yang tidak diharapkan tersebut. Anisah pulang kerumah orang tuanya. Keluarganya sangat menyesalkan perceraian tersebut. Dan mulailah Anisah berhubungan dengan Fatih. Fatih sering datang kerumah Anisah dan terkadang mengajaknya keluar rumah, dengan mobil mewah yang dimiliki Fatih.
Hari dan minggu terus berganti, namun Fatih belum juga melamar Anisah. Mereka masih menjalani pacaran. Sampai pada suatu malam, Fatih mengajak Anisah menginap di sebuah hotel dan pada malam itu terjadilah perselingkuhan, terjadilah hubungan yang diharamkan oleh Allah Swt., mereka berzina. Mereka telah dikuasai oleh hasrat nafsu dan syetan.
Hari dan bulan terus berganti, tapi Fatih belum juga datang untuk melamar Anisah. Anisah sangat gelisah dan tidak bisa tenang, ia selalu diberi janji yang tak pasti. Dan sampai pada suatu hari Fatih berkata pada Anisah,
” Wahai wanita yang hina, apakah engkau mengira aku akan menikah dengan wanita seperti dirimu, tidak akan pernah! Aku tidak akan mau menikah dengan wanita murahan seperti dirimu. Engkau tidak lagi berharga, engkau adalah wanita kotor dan hina, engkau tidak layak menikah dengan pemuda terpandang seperti diriku. Aku yakin, kalau sekali sudah berkhianat, kelak engkau berkhianat lagi. Kalaupun engkau kunikahi, kelak bila engkau bertemu pemuda yang lebih ganteng dan lebih kaya dariku pasti engkau akan meninggalkan diriku, sebagaimana engkau telah meninggalkan suami mu yang baik-baik itu. Dan aku tidak mau hal itu terjadi pada diriku, sekarang pergi engkau dari sisiku! Jangan temui aku lagi, aku tidak mau lagi melihat mukamu, aku sudah muak dengan dirimu.”
Anisah pun berlalu pergi dengan membawa luka mendalam di hatinya. Hidupnya telah hancur. Masa depannya telah gelap. Ia telah salah selama ini menilai. Ia telah tertipu dan terpedaya. Penyesalan tidak ada lagi gunanya. Kembali pada suami yang pertama, tak akan mungkin suaminya mau menerima dengan keadaan dirinya saat ini, kembali pada keluarganya, ia merasa malu, ia tidak tahu harus melangkah kemana dan mengadu pada siapa. Hanya kepada Allah Swt. Mengadukan segala kelukaan dan kesalahan yang dilakukan selama ini. Anisah telah menyadari kekeliruannya dan sangat menyesal atas apa yang telah ia lakukan. Tapi, semuanya sudah terlambat.
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Kisah diatas telah memberi kita pelajaran berharga, pelajaran yang sangat berguna dalam kehidupan kita. Bagaimanapun baik dan solehnya seseorang namun ia tidak akan bisa selamat dan bisa memelihara dirinya jikalau ia sendiri telah memberikan dirinya untuk di belenggu syetan dan hawa nafsu. Kisah diatas hanya satu dari puluhan dan bahkan lebih, dari kisah-kisah yang pernah terjadi. Betapa sering hubungan rumah tangga retak dan pecah karena tidak terkontrolnya dan terjaganya interaksi dengan lawan jenis.
Semoga menjadi bahan renungan dan pelajaran bagi kita semua, insya Allah.
A Muslim Woman and Free Time
Free Time
Everyone seems to wish they had more of it. Being a wife and the mother of seven children I have often thought to myself that if only I had some free time I would... What would I do? Here we come to a universal truth about free time. It is used in one of two ways. Either it is put to good use or it is wasted, sometimes in sinful use.
Of course, we will all agree that performing some sort of Ibadah would be the ideal use of free time. However, we often forget that the performance of Ibadah is the very reason for our life on earth. Allah (swt) says: “I have not created jinn and humans except so that they may worship Me.” [51:56]
Allah did not create humans without reason. Nor did He create them for the sake of spending their time in pointless activity. He created them for Ibadah in the complete meaning of Ibadah - worship of Him as the one Almighty Lord of the Worlds.
Ibadah refers not just to ritual, physical, and mental acts of Ibadah such as Salah, Saum, Zakah, and Hajj. These are the Arkan of Ibadah. The true and complete meaning of the word Ibadah includes much more. As Ibn Taymiyyah puts it, Ibadah is “a comprehensive word that refers to all that Allah (swt) loves and all that pleases Him.”
So how does all this tie in with a woman and free time? If we examine the question and take a deeper look at exactly how Ibadah is performed in a woman's life, the desire for “free time” takes on a new meaning.
Adh-Dhahabee related in Sayr A'laam An-Nubalaa from Asma bint Yazeed Ibn As-Sakan that she went to the Prophet (saw) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, may my father and mother be sacrificed for you. I have come to you on behalf of the women. Verily Allah has sent you to men and women. We have believed in you. We do not go out and we remain in your homes. We are your source of physical pleasure. We carry your children. A man goes out to pray Jum’ah and Jamah, and follows the Janazah. And if you go out for Hajj, or Umrah, or Jihad, we look after your wealth. We wash your clothing. We raise your children. Shall we not share in the reward?”
The Prophet (saw) turned to his Companions and said, “Have you ever heard anything a woman has said better than what she has said?” Then he said to her, “Understand O woman, and inform the other women. Indeed a woman's perfection of her relationship with her husband, her seeking his pleasure, and doing that which he approves of is equivalent to all of that.” Asma left exclaiming “Laa ilaaha illallaah.”
Here, the Prophet (saw) explains an important aspect of Ibadah which applies uniquely to women. He informs us of the way to her success and how she has been granted this distinguished form of worship, one that many of us complain about. It is equivalent to Jihad, praying Jum’ah and Jamah. It is commensurate to participating in the Janazah, performance of Hajj and Umrah.
This Ibadah is the perfection of her relationship with her husband, her seeking his pleasure, obeying him, and doing that which he approves of. It is the caring for her children and her home and remaining within her home. Allah (swt) in His incomparable mercy has provided her with other deeds which replace those deeds that men usually perform, so that she may achieve equal reward.
One might argue that most of the women participate in these actions on a daily basis, even the disbelieving women. However, the concerns of a Muslim woman are nobler. She sets her sights high in her actions. She is aware that her every act, when performed islamically, is an expression of her worship of Allah (swt).
What is it that makes a woman wish for free time? Usually it is a need for a more personal time period wherein she may direct her energies into something that she would individually benefit from and enjoy. There is nothing wrong with this and indeed, when done with the correct intention, this too falls into Ibadah.
However, the waste of free time is an evil that many of us succumb to. The world is filled with opportunities for us to waste our time. Shaytan whispers here and there and before you know it we've intended well but failed to follow through. All of us are prone to wasting our time or failing to take opportunities to use our time well.
This is how it happens:
Tasweef
Putting things off until “later”. It is very easy to fall into a rut of aspiring to do good while not putting forth a sincere effort. Success in doing good things with our time is much like repentance. Is repentance sincere if you just think about it, express your desire to repent, and then say, “Oh, maybe I'll repent next month?”
Similarly, if you wish to memorise Qur’an, or further your knowledge, but continually put your efforts on a back burner, you've fallen into Tasweef. In order to succeed at something we must first rectify our intention, then make sure that the thing we are aspiring to is in accordance with the Qur’an and Sunnah, and finally we must step forward with a firm foot. We must be serious in our commitment.
Going Out
Affairs outside our home can be harmful as well as Haram. Would you even think that going shopping could fall into this? Don't be surprised. Islam directs that a woman is primarily meant to remain in her home. She may come out for her needs. If she goes out, according to the conditions of the Shariah, for a need which her husband cannot fulfil for her, then there is nothing against that. But, sometimes we fall into a western mentality of role sharing. Now there is nothing wrong with a husband helping his wife out and vice-versa.
However, a woman taking over responsibilities of the husband with the intention of “making things easier on him” is skirting on the questionable. This is particularly so when we talk of shopping and other such needed but not always necessary tasks. A better way would be to organise herself and her household affairs and that of her children by simplifying her lifestyle and cutting back on the unnecessary.
A Muslim woman's constant going to the markets to make the household purchases and her desire to do so is wrong. Some women have no intention to purchase anything. They just want to walk around the market and see what's new. Maybe there's a new style, new material, something nice. So she has no true need to go out. And we know the Hadith of the Prophet (saw) who said, “If a woman goes out of her home Shaytan will attract attention to her presence.” [At-Tirmidhi]
Meaning he will draw attention to her presence and make use of the opportunity either in tempting her or tempting others through her. If a woman remains in her home then Shaytan cannot do this. The Prophet (saw) also said that if a woman goes out of her home she “appears in the form of a Shaytan and she leaves in the form of Shaytan.” [Muslim]
How? The scholars have said that Shaytan comes to those who are before her and make her coming out appear attractive to those who are looking. And when she leaves he makes her appear attractive to those who are present and see her leaving.
So she causes people to look at her and she causes their temptation. Allah (swt) and His Messenger (saw) have ordered us to remain in our homes and to come out only for true need to do so.
“And remain in your homes” are the words of Allah (swt) addressed to the believing women and the wives of the Prophet (saw). The word in the Ayah, “qarna” means to remain and adhere. Allah has ordered the woman to adhere, to stay, and not merely to it, in her home. She should accustom herself to staying home and not going out. And if she does go out she should feel uncomfortable in doing so.
A sign of Iman of a true believing woman is her feeling that her home is where she belongs. And a sign of a diseased heart is that of a woman who feels uncomfortable staying at home. Examine your heart for the stirrings of disease. Treat yourself by applying Allah's command. By rectifying our hearts contentment can be bred and truly appreciated.
The Telephone
Ah, the telephone. A wonderful invention it was, without doubt. It did away with a lot of travel, sending messages by hand, and unexpected visitors. But it also brought us the opportunity for wasting large blocks of our time and, sometimes, committing serious sin such as talking about things that are none of our business. A telephone does indeed fulfil a need for us as women.
It provides us with an opportunity to “visit” with our friends and family without leaving our homes. We can share a cup of tea with a friend as a relaxation from the occupation of daily chores. But, it can also steal valuable time that can be put to more beneficial use. Use it with attention and care or you will find that it will use you.
Music and Singing
Allah (swt) says: “And befool them gradually those whom you can among them with your voice, (i.e. songs, music, and any other call for Allah’s disobedience) make assaults on them with your cavalry and your infantry.” [17:64]
“And of mankind is he who purchases idle talk (music, singing, etc.)” [31:6]
In explaining this Ayah Ibn Masood said: “Wallaahi Laa ilaaha illaa huwa this refers to music and singing.” The Prophet (saw) said, “There will come among my nation a group of people making permissible the wearing of silk (for men) the drinking of wine, and the usage of musical instruments.” [Al-Bukhari]
This was pointing to the fact that such deeds were originally forbidden but would be made permissible in later times by those who stray from the correct path. I'm sure we can all agree that Allah (swt) has not forbidden a thing except for the corruption or harm that it contains.
Now, there may be Muslims that listen to music for pleasure. If you are one of them, I advise you to research the subject to learn of its impermissibility and work on your Iman. A Mumin would turn to Qur’an for such pleasure.
I like to believe that most Muslims do not listen to music but rather find it an unintentional part of their lives - on the radio, while listening to the news, computer software, and the like.
If you are truly benefiting from such things, don't fall into the neglectful habit of not turning the sound down whenever music comes on. It's so easy to do - to just sit there and think that it will stop in a minute. This occurs a lot with children, especially with computer software and video games.
If they can't use them without the sound and the sound is full of music then maybe the actual benefit should be reconsidered. Sooner or later we will tire of turning it down or having to constantly say, “Turn down the music!” And, sooner or later, we will find music a constant element of our lives. Sooner or later.
Gossip and Backbiting
Most of us have, at one time or another chewed the flesh of someone. It may have been an enemy or a friend, an acquaintance, a supervisor, or an employee, or even our own spouse or child. Gossip and backbiting are nasty deeds and they can become habitual. Though not restricted to females, it is notoriously recurrent in us. We have a reputation for it. We fall into it easily. And again, it is usually idle time, time not well spent, that is the trap laid into which we place our wagging tongues.
When we call a sister just to talk, how many times do our conversations turn to the affairs of others? When this happens do we forbid what is wrong and command what is right? Do we discuss shared secrets under the pretence of seeking advice. When we call or go to visit, do we start with good intent but fall into talk that rings with “Did you hear?” “Can you believe that she?” and “So-and-so said this and that.”
Often talk enters into the perimeters of the Haram, causing us to use our free time in an extremely detrimental way. Even our silence to its occurrence is an abuse of time for which we are accountable.
Films and Television
This is a particularly dangerous tool of learning and change. Audio/video anything has the incredible ability of making lasting impressions in the mind and upon the soul. Mannerisms, morals, and beliefs can be culled from them. If exposure is continuous the influence can begin to be seen within a very short period of time, in changes of belief as well as in the amount of time spent viewing.
Don't fool yourself into thinking that children are the only ones who are impressionable and susceptible. Adults can be just as easily influenced and addicted. Now, consider this view of films and television shows, given by the lecturer Saeed bin Misfir Al-Qahtaanee.
“A film or a show is basically a story. A liar called a writer or producer writes it. After he writes it he approaches a group of other liars and actors with the intent to perform and bring the story to life. You play this role and you perform this part. You're the mother, you play the father, you the son, and so on, and they sit together for two, three, or four months to produce the story and present it to the people. And then people spend long stretches of time sitting together following the story as if it were true while in reality it is a lie. Actually a person shouldn't even be looking at it. . . They even have a way of capturing the viewer’s attention by leaving them in suspense at the end of the show so that they will make it a point to watch the next show.”
Granted, there are possibilities for useful and permissible use of television and video. But the concern is in that which is, without question, forbidden. Ask yourself, “Am I watching or listening to things that I really, islamically, should not?” Am I using my time well in doing so?
We are left with the subject of how to use our free time beneficially. The world is filled with activities. How do we choose who, what, when, and where and at the same time reassure ourselves of why? Here are a few principles that can put some perspective and equilibrium into our lives.
Fear Allah
Place this feeling into everything that you approach in your life. Keep in mind the pillars of our Deen - not just that of Iman and Islam but particularly of Ihsan – “to worship Allah as if you see Him and, though you cannot see Him, know that He sees you.” [Mutafaqun 'alaih]
What a powerful statement! Make it words to live by. Also remember that our entire lives and the world around us is a test. Know that you will be asked how you spent your time, your money, your health, and your wealth. Allah (swt) tells us in Surah Al-Kahf: “Indeed We have made that which is on earth as an adornment for it, in order that We may test them (mankind) as to which of them are best in deeds.” [18:7]
Pay attention to your life and the outlook you put into your day-to-day activities. Allah (swt) observes us. He knows our every movement. We should consider this observance and emphasise our awareness of Allah (swt). If we fear Allah (swt) and maintain our consciousness of Him (swt) we will be more responsible with our time and our use of it.
Be Responsible and Responsive
As women we have varying circumstances and situations within the folds of our lives and our responsibilities vary accordingly. First and foremost we are responsible to Allah (swt). All of our obligations in life are subjective to this. If we could only keep this is mind most things would fall into place and much wrong avoided.
But sometimes we overindulge ourselves in personal desires causing us to neglect areas of responsibility to the point that we step over the bounds of right into wrong. The fabric of our lives is as different and varying as fingerprints. Some of us are married though others are not. We may live all alone or within an extended family home. You may have a child or two, others have a houseful, while even others have none.
Therein each of us will find a different balance of responsibilities and a varying amount of free time. If you were to list all of the responsibilities that you have as a woman you might feel a bit exasperated. However, the key is not in making a “To Do” list but more a reminder to be responsive to those things around you that need you.
For example, a baby has a right to the breast milk that Allah (swt) has created for its nourishment. A mother has an obligation to offer it. But the responsive part of this relationship is recognising that the child needs not just the milk but the loving, caring warmth, the emotional cradling, the comforting nipple of his mother's breast. A relationship of physical contact and emotion is created and needed, one for which a bottle is a poor replacement. A baby is not aware of the nutritional difference that mother's milk provides over other milks. But she is aware of the difference in comfort, closeness, and affinity that she feels when she nurses from her mother's own milk.
By looking beyond the “right” and “obligation” aspects of our lives and turning our minds to the benefit, reward, and fulfilment that can be gained by living out our responsibilities we can find pleasure and satisfaction in things that are otherwise done without attention or enjoyment.
In the patchwork of our lives we will find that there is blessing in whatever Allah (swt) has given us if we only look for it, nurture it, and give it its due. The more responsive we are to our individual blessings, the more benefit we will gain.
Be responsive to the daily situations that Allah (swt) places you in. Act and react with full awareness of your duties to all aspects of your life and the people and things within it. Stop and ask yourself if you are truly fulfilling the rights of Allah (swt), the rights of others, and the rights of yourself.
Keep Good Company
Most of us have a “best friend”. She (or even he) is the one whom we call and discuss our innermost feelings and concerns with, the one with whom we share our day-to-day happenings and thoughts, the one whom we turn to for advice. No wonder the Prophet (saw) said, “A person follows the faith of his friend. Therefore, consider with whom you make friends.” [Abu Dawoud & Tirmidhi]
A good companion is one who will listen, yet stop you if you gossip. She will encourage you toward good when you incline toward evil. She will tell you that you are wrong when you need to hear it. She will remind you of Allah (swt) and remind you to remember Him.
She will prohibit you from disobedience to Him. And perhaps most importantly, she will do this without fear of losing you as a friend just as you, if you are worthy of such a companion, will accept it with a good heart and thank Allah (swt) for the blessing of such a good friend.
Identify Your Weaknesses and Desires
All of us have them. Some of us control them. Many of us indulge in them. It could be talking on the phone, e-mailing friends, going shopping, social engagements, an outside job, even going out for Dawah or education. Any one of these activities has the potential to turn into a platform for misuse of time and neglect of responsibility.
As part of a balanced life there is no harm in participating in any or all of these things as long as they involve nothing forbidden. But if they overshadow or negatively affect the other areas of your life, particularly those things that are obligations, you could be setting yourself up for some major questioning on the Day of Judgment.
Sit with yourself and examine where and how you spend your time. Often we may find that we give an abundance of our time to things that are beneficial but not really necessary while other areas of our lives are not being cared for properly. Single out those things that seem to dominate your life.
Examine them for their value. Are you sacrificing time from other obligations in your life to make room for them? Does it affect your relationships with the people in your life? We don't have to give up the things we enjoy. We just need to maintain the equilibrium that is necessary to balance the many balls that we choose to juggle.
Free time is a luxury that most of us enjoy and would appreciate more of. But in doing so we must keep in mind that every second that ticks by comes to an end and does not return until we are called to account for it. Spend your time well as it is stated so superbly by the Lord of the Worlds:
By al-'Asr (Time), Verily mankind is in loss, except those who believe, and do good righteous deeds, and those who enjoin one another to truth.
Sisterhood in Islam
My Dear Sister in Islam:
Insha-Allah, everything is well with you and those close to you. I am writing this letter to let you know how much I care and to help us both gain an understanding of what Sisterhood in Islam really means, Insha-Allah. I care about you because we share something that is more special than the whold world and all that it contains; we share the belief in the Onenesss of Allah (SWT) and the religion that He (SWT) has given to us. This is a gift that transcends any differences we may have in regard to race, color, nationality, culture or language. Being a sister in Islam is one of the many blessings that comes from acceptance of the true path of Allah (SWT). It is also a responsibility that we each have as members of the Muslim Ummah. To fufill our obligation, we first need to understand what is required of us.
This is what the bond of Sisterhood in Islam means to me, based upon the wisdom of Allah and his Prophet Muhammad (SAW),
"...And lower your wing for the believers (be courteous to the fellow-believers)." (Al-Hijr 15:88)
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"None of you has Iman (faith) until he desires for his brother (or sister) Muslim that which he desires for himself (or herself)." (Bukhari and Muslim)
He (SAW) also said,
"The Muslims in their mutual love, kindness and compassion are like the human body where when one of its parts is in agony the entire body feels the pain, both in sleeplessness and fever." (Bukhari and Muslim)
I love you for the sake of Allah (SWT) ...
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said,
"On the Day of Judgement, Allah, the Most High, will announce, 'Where are those who love each other for the sake of My pleasure? This day I am going to shelter them in the shade provided by Me. Today there is no shade except My shade." (Muslim)
I will be sure to tell you of my love, Insha-Allah ...
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"If a person loves his brother, he should inform him of this fact." (Abu Dawud and Tirmidi)
I will be merciful and compassionate toward you, Insha-Allah ...
Allah (SWT) says,
"Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and those who are with him are severe against the disbelievers, and merciful among themselves..." (Al-Fath 48:29)
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"Do not be envious of other Muslims; do not overbid at auctions against another Muslim; do not have malice against a Muslim; do not go against a Muslim and forsake him; do not make an offering during a pending transaction. O' servants of Allah, be like brothers (or sisters) with each other. A Muslim is the brother (or sister) of another Muslim; do not hurt him (or her), or look down upon him (or her) or bring shame on him (or her). Piety is a matter of heart (The Prophet (SAW) repeated this thrice). It is enough evil for a person to look down upon his Muslim brother (or sister). The blood, property and honor of a Muslim is inviolable to a Musilm." (Muslim)
I will keep company with you, Insha-Allah ...
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the righteous." (Abu Dawud and Tirmidi)
He (SAW) also said,
"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend." (Abu Dawud and Tirmidi)
I will help you when necessary and I will cover your shortcomings, Insha-Allah ...
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"One who helps a fellow Muslim in removing his (or her) difficulty in this world, Allah will remove the former's distress on the Day of Judgement. He who helps to remove the hardship of another, will have his difficulties removed by Allah in this world and in the Hereafter. One who covers the shortcomings of another Muslim, will have his faults covered up in this world and the next by Allah. Allah continues to help a servant so long as he goes on helping his own brother (or sister)." (Muslim)
I will encourage you to the right, Insha-Allah ...
Allah (SWT) says,
"The believers, men and women. are Auliya (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on people) Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamio Monotheism and all that Islma orders one to do), and forbids (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden); they offer their prayers perfectly (Iqamat-as-Salat); and give the Zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah will have His mercy upon them. Surely, Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise." (At-Tauba 9:71)
When the Prophet (SAW) instructed,
"Help your (Muslim) brother (or sister) when he commits a wrong and when a wrong is committed against him, someone asked, "O Messenger of Allah, I understand how I can help him if a wrong is committed against him, but how can I help him if he is himself committing a wrong?" At that the Prophet (SAW) answered, "Stopping him from committing the wrong is helping him." (Bukhari)
I will fulfill my minimum duties and beyond, Insha-Allah ...
The Prophet (SAW) said,
"A Muslim owes six obligations towards another Muslim: when you meet him (or her), salute him (or her) saying 'Assalamu Alaikum; when he (or she) invites you, accept his (or her) invitation; when he (or she) solicits your advice, advise him (or her) sincerely; when he (or she) sneezes and praises Allah, respond with the supplication Yarhamuk Allah (Allah have mercy on you); when he (or she) falls sick, visit him (or her); on his (or her) death, join his (or her funeral)." (Muslim)
He (SAW) also said,
"When a Muslim visits his (or her) Muslim brother (or sister) who is sick, he (or she) certainly gathers the fruits of Paradise until he (or she) returns (from visiting)." (Muslim)
You should understand, dear sister, that these are only some of the promises that I have made to you and to Allah (SWT), Insha-Allah. I will strive to fufill each of them to the best of my ability, Insha-Allah. Insha-Allah you will do the same for all of your sisters in Islam. This will not only enhance our bounds of Sisterhood, but will also strengthen the fibers of the Muslim Ummah as we acquire and utilize the wisdom of Islam, Insha-Allah. Our ultimate goal is to gain the pleasure of Allah (SWT), as well as His Mercy and Blessings, Insha-Allah. May we both find the true peace that comes with being a Muslim and attaing the highest of rewards: Paradise. Ameen!!!
With true love,
Your Sister in Islam
Walaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullah Wa Baraktuh
The Feminist Movement and The Muslim Woman
by Maryam Jameelah
The most radical movement in recent times which is revolutionizing thc whole social structure and changing the entire basis of human relationships is the Feminist movement, popularly known as the drive for Women’s Liberation.
The Feminist movement is not a unique product of the modern age. Its historical precedents reach back into antiquity. In his Republic, Plato advocated the abolition of the family and social roles determined by sex; in literature, the ancient Greek classical comedy, Lypsistrata and much marc recently, Henrick Ibsen’s (1828-1906) drama, A Doll’s House preached feminist ideals. The Victorian economist and philosopher, John Stuart Mill and the German socialist, Friedrich Engels in his essay, The Subjection of Women, which he wrote in 1869, laid the core foundations of Feminism. In 1884 Angels publicly proclaimed marriage as a “dreary mutation of slavery,” urged its abolition and suggested public responsibility for the rearing of children.
In America, Feminism was the outgrowth of the movement for the abolition of slavery and the Temperance movement for the legal banning of liquor. Women who joined these organizations soon discovered that to make their cause effective, they required political power. The historical milestone of the Feminist movement was the Seneca Falls Convention in 1948 which in its manifesto, demanded women’s rights to her complete control over her property and the he right to divorce her husband, guardianship of the children and an end to sexual discrimination in employment along with the right to receive equal pay with men for the same work, and most important, female franchise. As the campaign for women’s suffrage grew, the more conservative Feminists limited their cause to the single issue of suffrage. In 1920 with the passage of the 19th amendment to the American constitution giving women the vote, the majority of women activists as ‘well, as the public assumed that with female franchise, women’s rights had been fully obtained. After this, the Feminist movement lay dormant for more then than forty years.
On December 14, 1961, President John F. Kennedy signed an Executive order establishing the President’s Commission on the status of women. Its mandate was “to examine and recommend remedies to combat the prejudices and obsolete customs and morals which act as obstacles to the complete realization of women’s rights.” The President’s Commission was the first official body ever to examine the status of in the United States.
Thus the “silent fifties” came to an abrupt end with the beginnings of Feminist confrontation politics in the early 1960’s – marches, pickets and sit-ins. College and university girls began to participate in these political activities.
In contrast to the women who assembled at the Seneca Falls Convention in 1848 and merely protested against the ill-treatment and abuse of women by drunken husbands and achievement of their legitimate rights in marriage, control of property and earnings and equal pay with men for the same work, the demands of the modern successors are far more radical. In the largest most enthusiastic Feminist demonstration ever held, on August 26, 1970, hundreds of women marched down Fifth Avenue, New York City carrying placards which read:
HOUSEWIVES ARE UNPAID SLAVES! STATE PAY FOR HOUSEWORK! OPPRESSED WOMEN! DON’T COOK DINNER! STARVE YOUR HUSBAND TONIGHT! END HUMAN SACRAFICE! DON’T GET MARRIED! WASHING DIAPERS IS NOT FULFILLING! LEGALISE ABORTION! DEPENDENCY IS NOT HEALTHY STATE OF BEING!
Today’s Feminists are implacably opposed to any social roles being determined by sex. Feminists assert the absolute and unqualified equality of men and women, not withstanding anatomical differences. They deny that there is any inherent biological distinction between men and women on the basis of sex which determines that the wife should be the housewife and mother and the husband the breadwinner and authoritarian head of the family. They believe that women should take just as active role in sexual intercourse as men and not be passive. They demand the abolition of institutional marriage, home and family, asset complete female sexual freedom and that the upbringing should be a public responsibility. They insist that all women should be given the right to complete control over their reproductive lives. They are demanding that all restrictions must be lifted from laws governing contraception so that devices can be publicly advertised and available over the druggist counter to any women regardless of her age and marital status and purchasable without a doctor’s prescription. All laws restricting abortion should be removed and that women have a legal right to abortion at any stage of pregnancy. Abortions should not only be available at demand but should be supplied free by the state to any women who wants one so that the poor can take full advantage of facility.
In schools all course must be equally co-educational – home economics must no be exclusively female and shop mechanics for boys. Segregation must be broken down in gymnasiums and physical education. Girls should be allowed to compete in all sports and physical exercises with boys at all ages. All mass-media must be radically changed to eliminate sex-stereotyping roles and portray women as equal to men in all fields of work and production. Children’s books are criticized by feminists because they do not show in their stories more single-parent families, unmarried mothers and divorces women as models for the children. Girls should be given mechanical toys to play with and boys should be given dolls. Instead of traditional institutions of marriage, home and family, radical Feminists propose men and women living in large communes where the welfare and rearing of the children would be public responsibility. They are demanding that child-care centers are made available to parents on a 24-hour basis provided to the public as free on demand just as parks, libraries and recreational facilities are taken for granted in most American communities. Women must be financially independent and no profession or occupation should be banned to her on account of her sex.
A lot of women who may say that they just want to play the traditional roles are simply fearful - or unable to imagine other ways of being. Old roles can seem to offer a certain security. Freedom can seem frightening especially if one has learned how to achieve a certain degree of power inside prison. Perhaps they are just afraid of choices. We don’t seek to impose anything on women but merely to open up all possible alternatives. We do seek choice as one of the functions, which makes people human beings. We want to be full people, crippled neither by law or custom or our own-chained minds. If there us no room in that in nature, then nature must be changed!1
One of the “alternative choices” for women the Feminists seek to make socially acceptable is Lesbianism (female homosexuality). One of the branches of feminism is the homophile organization known as The Daughters of Bilitis the aim of which is to promote Lesbianism.
The women’s liberation movement has members who were lesbians before its existence and those who have become lesbians since their involvement with the movement. For some of the latter, Lesbianism is a form of political protest. Say the radical feminists. “Lesbianism is one road to freedom - freedom from oppression by men.”2
The Lesbian minority in America, which may run as high at ten million women, is a woman, who is drawn erotically to women rather than to men. Perhaps the most logical and least hysterical of all statements about homosexuality is the following by Dr. Joel Fort psychiatrist and public health specialist and Dr. Joe K. Adams, psychologist and former mental health officer. The statement made in August 1966 is as follows: “Homosexuals like heterosexuals should be treated as individual human beings and not as a special group either by law or social agencies or employers. Laws governing sexual behavior should be reformed to deal only with clearly anti-social behavior involving violence or youth. The sexual behavior of individual adults by mutual Consent in private should not be a matter of public concern.3
What is the end-result of the radical feminist movement? What kind of society does Women’s Liberation seek to attain?
Thus women for men are alternatively angels and slaves to be worshipped one minute and spurned and exploited the next but seldom treated as equals. Concerning sex, our society has taught total abstinence for the first decade of sexual maturity (even masturbation is considered at best an unavoidable evil,) then life-long fidelity to one partner. All the while society does its best both to keep us ignorant and confused about what a well developed sex-life can be and to convince us that the forbidden fruits of promiscuity surpass anything the “moral’ person can ever taste. What a bundle of paradoxes! If instead we could face without flinching our homosexual impulses and curiosity about how this or that act with such a person might feel, then we might be able to distinguish between an impulse which is immoral and involuntary and action which of course must be taken deliberately in accordance with its likely consequences and our overall values and goals. What would happen if men rejected the male stereotype and acknowledged the values of oneness, humility, discussion, consideration, cooperation and compromise along with humility, respectful disagreement and conflict. We would not deny the richness of our sexual imagination nor the natural sexual element in all relationships. Just how it occurs-talking, touching, dancing or making love should be our guilt-free choice based on our own honest needs rather than a “moral” “masculine” stereotype.
What about the question of “fidelity” to one partner versus a diverse sex-life? Most adults seem to need to have a primary relationship, which comes before all others. If a problem in the primary relationship, which is the most demanding but also the most potentially rewarding kind, makes us try to escape through an outside flirtation or “affair,” this is bad not because of the sexual acts committed but because it is an escape. The problem remains unsolved.
All our relationships tend to be over-reserved. We need to loosen up and learn to express affection-openly and physically. Would men’s and women’s liberation of the sort I have just described destroy the traditional American family? I think so. It is an institution with many drawbacks. Considerations of efficiency and economy and exposure to the difficulties and opportunities inherent in larger groups living and working together make it a good idea to experiment with some “communal” kinds of arrangement.4
In Muslim countries, fortunately, the Feminist movement has not yet touched such extremes as this but as a result of westernization, Purdah is rapidly disappearing and women, revolting against their traditional roles, are patterning their lives more and more am the models of their Western sisters.
In the more fashionable and well-to-do urban classes, particularly in Tehran, the women spend less time in household work and more in social, professional, recreational and philanthropic activities. To go to the dress-maker or the hair-dresser, to have morning coffee or lunch with friends, to shop and attend parties, these constitute the daily routine for such women. They also enjoy taking meals in fine restaurants, going on holidays and engaging in sports. An increasing number of women of this class take an interest in cultural and charitable work. (p. 77)
In the cities of Lebanon, women are increasingly seen outside the home. On Sundays there are as many women as men on the crowded beaches of Beirut - the younger generation, of course. Beach behavior undoubtedly is a symbol of the loosening of bonds. In Lebanon the acceptance of Western dress styles has reached a stage where among the westernized middle and upper classes, there is little restraint even on those girls who wish to dress provocatively. In all social groups girls display a tremendous preoccupation with clothes and they are not usually casual clothes except for beach wear or picnics. In the winter suits are worn but in summer the standard garb for the university girl is a tight silk dress or skirt and a more or less transparent blouse. High heels and nylon stockings are standard and make-up is elaborate. Some Muslim girls (not university students) wear a completely transparent symbolic veil over their faces. A few years ago, girls were shy about being seen on the beaches with bathing suits, especially in a bikini. Now they take it in their stride and many wear scanty two-piece bathing suits. (pp. 122-123)5
Feminism is an unnatural, artificial and abnormal product of contemporary social disintegration, which in turn is the inevitable result of the rejection of all transcendental, absolute moral and spiritual values. The student of anthropology and history can be certain of the abnormality of the Feminist movement because all human cultures that we know of throughout prehistorically and historic times make a definite clear-cut distinction between “masculinity” and “femininity” and pattern the social roles of men and women accordingly. The disintegration of the home and family, the loss of the authoritarian role of the father and sexual promiscuity have been directly responsible for the decline and fall of every nation which these evils become prevalent.
Some may argue that if this is so, why is Western civilization so extraordinarily vigorous and dynamic and despite its decadence and moral corruption, still unchallenged in its world-domination?
When moral depravity, self-worship and sensual indulgence have touched extremes; when men and women, young and old have become lost in sexual craze; when men have been completely perverted by sexual excitements, the natural consequences leading a nation to total collapse will inevitably follow. People who witness the progress and prosperity of such declining nations, which indeed stand on the very brink of an abyss of fire, are led to conclude that their self-indulgence is not impeding their progress but accelerating it. They think that a nation is at the peak of its prosperity when its people are highly self-indulgent. But this is a sad conclusion. When the constructive and destructive forces are both working side by side and the constructive aspect on the whole seems to have an edge over the destructive aspect, it is wrong to count the latter among the factors leading to the former.
Take, for instance, the case of a clever merchant who is earning high profits by dint of his intelligence, hard-work and experience. But at the same time, if he is given to drink, gambling and leads a care-free life, will it not be misleading to regard that side of his life as contributing to his well-being and prosperity? As a matter of fact, the first set of qualities is helping him to prosper whereas the second set is pulling him down. If on account of the positive qualities, he is flourishing, it does not mean that the negative forces are ineffective. It may be that the devil of gambling brings his whole fortune to naught in a moment and it may be that the devil of drinking leads him to commit a fatal mistake rendering him bankrupt and it may be that the devil of sexual indulgence leads him to commit murder, suicide or some other calamity. One cannot imagine how prosperous and triumphant he would have been had he not fallen a prey to these evils.
Similarly is the case with a nation. In the beginning it receives an impetus from constructive forces but then, due to lack of proper guidance, it begins to gather round it the means of its own destruction. For a while the constructive forces drag it along under the momentum already gained. But the destructive forces that are working simultaneously weaken it so much that one stray shock can send it sprawling to its doom.6
Where can salvation for humanity be found?
From the point of view of social structure, the teachings of the Shariah emphasize the role of the family as the unit of society - the family in the extended sense and not in its atomized, nuclear modem form. The greatest social achievement of the Prophet in Medina was precisely in breaking the existing tribal bonds and substituting religious ones which were connected on the one hand with the totality of the Muslim community and on the other hand with the family. The Muslim family is the miniature of the whole of Muslim society and its firm basis. In it, the man or father functions as the Imam in accordance with the patriarchal nature of Islam. The religious responsibility of the family rests upon his shoulders. In the family, the father upholds the tenets of the faith and his authority symbolizes that of God in the world. The man is in fact respected in the family precisely because of the sacerdotal function that he fulfils. The rebellion of Muslim women in certain quarters of Islamic society came when men themselves ceased to fulfil their religious function and lost their virile and patriarchal character. By becoming themselves effeminate, they caused the reaction of revolt among certain women who no longer felt the authority of religion upon themselves.
The traditional family is also the unit of stability of society and the four wives that a Muslim can marry, like the four-sided Ka’aba, symbolize this stability. Many have not understood why such a family structure is permitted in Islam and attack Islam for it as if polygamy belongs to Islam alone. Here and again Muslim modernism carries with it the prejudice of Christianity against polygamy to the extent that some have gone even so far as to call it immoral and prefer promiscuity to a social pattern which minimizes all illicit relations to the extent possible. The problem of the attitude of the Western observer is not as important as that segment of modernized Muslim society which itself cannot understand the teachings of the Shariah on this point simply because it uses as criteria categories borrowed from the modern West.
There is no doubt that in a small but significant segment of Muslim society today, there is a revolt of women against traditional Islamic society. In every civilisation a reaction always comes against an existing force or action. In Islam, the very patriarchal and masculine nature of the tradition makes the revolt of those women who have become aggressively modernised more violent and virulent than, let us say, in Hinduism, where the maternal element has always been strong. What many modernised Muslim women are doing in rebelling against the traditional Muslim family structure is to rebel against fourteen centuries of Islam itself although many may not be aware of the inner forces that drive them on. It is the patriarchal nature of Islam that makes the reaction of some modernised women today so vehement. Although very limited in number, they are, in fact, more than Muslim men, thirsting for all things Western. They seek to become modernised in their dress and habits with impetuosity, which would be difficult to understand unless one considers the deep psychological factors involved.
From the Islamic point of view, the question of the equality of men and women is meaningless. It is like discussing the equality of a rose and a jasmine. Each has its own perfume, colour, shape and beauty. Men and women are not the same. Each has particular features and characteristics. Women are not equal to men. But neither are men equal to women. Islam envisages their roles in society not as competing but as complimentary. Each has certain duties and functions in accordance with his or her nature and constitution.
Man possesses certain privileges such as social authority and mobility against which he has to perform many heavy duties. First of all, he bears all economic responsibility. It is his duty to support his family completely even if his wife is rich and despite the fact that she is economically independent. A woman in a traditional Islamic society does not have to worry about earning a living. There is always a family completely even if his wife is rich and despite die fact that she is economically independent. A woman in traditional Islamic society does not have to worry about earning a living. There is always the larger family structure in which she can find a place and take refuge from social and economic pressures even if she has no husband or father. In the extended family system, a man often supports not only his wife and children but also his mother, sister, aunts, in-laws and sometimes even cousins and more distant relatives. Therefore in city life, the necessity of having to find a job at all costs and having to bear the economic pressure of life is lifted from the shoulders of women. As for the countryside, the family is itself the economic unit and the work is achieved by the larger family or tribal unit together.
Secondly, a woman does not have to find a husband for herself. Site does not have to display her charms and make the thousand and one plans through which she hopes to attract a future mate. The terrible anxiety of having to find a husband and of missing the opportunity if one does not try hard enough at the right moment is spared the Muslim woman. Being able to remain true to her nature, she can afford to sit at home and wait for her parents or guardian to choose a suitable match. This usually leads to a marriage which, being based on the sense of religious duty and enduring family and social bonds between the two sides, is more lasting arid ends much more rarely in divorce than the marriages which are based on the sentiments of the moment that often do not develop into more permanent relationships.
Thirdly the Muslim woman is spared direct military and political responsibility although in rare cases there have been women warriors. This point may appear as a deprivation to some but in the light of the real needs of feminine nature, it is easy to see that for most women, such duties weigh heavily upon them. Even in modern societies, which through the equalitarian process have tried to equate men and women as if there were no difference in the two sexes, Women are usually spared the military draft except in extreme circumstances.
In return for these privileges which the woman receives, she has also certain responsibilities of which the most important is to provide a home for her family and to bring up her children properly. In the home the woman rules as queen and a Muslim man is in a sense the guest of his wife at home. The home and the larger family structure in which she lives are for the Muslim woman her world. To be cut off from it would be like being cut off from the world or like dying. She finds the meaning of her existence in this extended family structure which is constructed so as to give her the maximum possibility of realizing her basic needs and fulfilling herself.
The Shariah therefore envisages the role of men and women according to their nature, which is complimentary. It gives the man the privilege of social and political authority and movement for which he has to pay by bearing heavy responsibilities, by protecting his family from all the forces and pressures of society, economic and otherwise. Although a master in the world at large and the head of his own family, the man acts in his home as one who recognize the rule of his wife, in this domain and respects it. Through mutual understanding and the realization of the responsibilities that God has placed on each other’s shoulders, the Muslim man and woman are able to fulfil their personalities and create a firm family unit which is the basic structure of Muslim society.7
In the vehement rejection of the cultural, moral and spiritual values, indispensable for maintaining the institution of the family, those who support the Women’s Liberation Movement are revolting against the whole Christian heritage of their own civilization.
Despite the evils of its feudalistic society and the abuses of the authority of the priesthood, medieval Europe enjoyed a social integration, stability, peace and harmony which is unknown to modern Europe. Here is a vivid and moving description of Christian family values practically implemented in medieval Europe as taken from the family chronicles of the famous German artist, Albrecht Durer (1471-1528) who, although a devout Christian, presents a picture of his own home life as very close to Islamic ideals.
Albrecht Durer, my beloved father, came to Germany, and stayed for a long time in the low countries, working with the great masters and finally came here to Nuremberg in the year of Our Lord 1455 on St. Eligius’s day. And on this same day (June 25th) there was the wedding of Philip Pircheimer in the castle and a great reception under the big lime tree. Thenceforth, for a long time, my beloved father, Albrecht Durer served the old Hiercrnonymus Holper until the year of our Lord 1467. Then he gave him his daughter Barbara, a handsome, virtuous maid, fifteen years of age and they were married eight days before St. Vitus (June 8).
This good mother of mine bore and brought up eighteen children, often had the pestilence and many other severe illnesses, endured great poverty, ridicule, scorn, alarm, and misfortune, yet she never bore revenge. These brothers and sisters of mine, my beloved father’s children, are all dead, some died young, the rest when adult. Only we three brothers are still living, so long as it may please God; namely, I, Albrecht and my brother Andreas, likewise my brother Hans. the third of that name out of my father’s children.
This said Albrecht Durer, the eider, worked hard all his life and had nothing else to live on but what he earned for himself, his wife and his children with his own hands. He also had all manner of grief, temptation and adversity. And all who knew him praised him for he led an honourable Christian life, was a patient and gentle man, peaceable towards everyone and he was very thankful to God. He had little-use for society and worldly pleasures; he was also a man of few words and godfearing. My beloved father took great pains to teach his children to honour the Lord. For his greatest wish was to bring up his children well so that they would be pleasing in the sight of God and man. Therefore he continually told us to love God and behave honourably towards our fellow men.
And my father was especially fond of me for he saw that I was eager to learn. Therefore he sent me to school and when I had learnt to read and write, he cook me away from school and taught me the goldsmith’s craft. And when I had mastered this, I felt that [would rather be a painter than a goldsmith. When I told my father this, he was not pleased for he grieved at the loss of time I had spent as his apprentice. But in the end, he let me have my way and in the year of our Lord 1486, on St. Andrew’s day (30th November) my father hound me as apprentice to Michael Wolgemut to serve him for three years. In that time God gave me diligence and I learnt well but I also had to suffer much at the hands of his assistants.
And after I had come home, Hans Frey negotiated with my father and gave me his daughter, Agnes and with her gave me 200 forms and we were married on Monday, July 7th before St. Margaret’s day in the year 1494.
Later it happened that my father became ill with dysentery and no one could cure him. And when he saw death approaching, he submitted to it calmly and patiently and commended my mother to my care and bade us to follow in the way of the Lord. He received the last sacraments and died a Christian death, leaving my mother a sorrowing widow. He had always praised her to me exceedingly as a most godly woman. Therefore I resolved never to forsake her.
All my friends! I ask you in God’s name when you read of my pious father’s death to say a Paternoster and an Ave Maria for his soul and for the sake of your souls too, that we may, by serving God succeed in living a good life and dying a good death. For it is not possible that one who has led a good life should die an evil death for God is merciful.
Now you shall know that in the year 5513, on a Tuesday before Rogation, my poor mother -whom I had taken care of for nine years since she came to live with me two years after my father died when she was quite penniless - was taken so ill early in the morning that we had to break open her door - for she was too weak to let us in and that that was the only way we could get to her. We brought her downstairs and she received both sacraments for everyone knew she was about to die. She had never been well since my father died.
More than a year from the said day on which she fell ill, in the year of our Lord, May 17, 1514, two hours before dark, my pious mother, Barbara Durer departed from this life with all the sacraments, absolved from pain and sin by papal authority. Before she died, she gave me her blessing and wished me divine peace with much good advice to guard myself from Sm. And she was most afraid of death but she said she was not afraid to meet God. And my mother’s death grieved me more than I can say. May God have mercy on her soul ! It was always her greatest pleasure to speak of God and see that we honoured Him. And it was her custom. to go regularly to church and she always scolded me heavily when I did wrong. And she was always anxious lest I or my brothers should sin. And whenever I went out or came in, she would say, “God be with you !“ And she constantly gave us solemn warning and had continual concern for our souls. And I cannot say enough about her good works and the kindness she showed to everybody or of her good name.
And it was in her sixty-third year when she died. And I buried her fittingly in accordance with my means. May the Lord grant me that I too die a Christian death and that I may join Him and His Heavenly Host, my father, my mother and my friends and may Almighty God give us eternal life! Amen. And in death she looked far sweeter than when she was still alive.8
A uni-sexual society be proposed be the feminists - that is, a society which makes no cultural or social distinction between the sexes, a society without marriage, home and family, where modesty, chastity and motherhood are scorned, does not represent “progress” or “liberation” but degradation at its worst. The result is pure and unadulterated anarchy, confusion and chaos.
If so, why is Feminism so popular?
The social order founded on materialism is the oldest and most popular. No social order is more satisfying, none so easy to evolve and so readily acceptable to the majority of men in all climes and at all times. It has such a deep attraction for the masses that its roots need not go deep into the soil nor is it necessary to raise the level of human intelligence or make any sacrifice for its sake. One requires no altruism or endurance. One need only drift with the “times.” History bears witness to the fact that no social order has so persistently come to have its sway over humanity as it has done.9
Never has moral corruption and social decadence menaced mankind on such a universal scale as is the case now. The adoption of feminist ideals degrades humans lower than the animals. For animals live by their instincts and cannot do anything opposed to their nature. Among animals, homosexuality is unknown. The male is only attracted to the female of its own species. The male animal never goes with lust to another male or a female to another female. Among animals, the maternal relationship is completely severed as soon as the young are able to look after themselves. In most species, the father takes no interest in its offspring. There is no such thing as modesty, chastity, marriage or filial ties among. beasts. These concepts are unique with human beings. They are found in every culture at every stage of civilization and history. The feminists wish to abolish the very characteristics, which make man human and undermine the foundation of all his relationships and social ties. The result will be suicide, not only of a single nation as in the past, but of the entire human race.
FOOTNOTES:
1 The Rebirth of Feminism, Judith Hole and Ellen Levine, The New York Tomies, New York, 1971, pp. 228
2 Ibid, p.240.
3 The New Woman; A Motive Anthology on Women’s Liberation, edited by Joanne Cooke and Charlotte Bunch-Weeks, New York, 1970. pp. 79-81.
4 Ibid., p.122-125.
5 Women in the Modern World, edited by Raphael Palai. The Free Press, New York 1967.
6 Purdah and the Status of Woman in Islam, Sayyid Abul ‘Ala Maudooda, Islamic Publications, Lahore, 1972, pp. 52-53.
7 Ideals and Realities of Islam, Syed Hossein Nasr, George AIIen & Unwin, London, 1966, pp. 110-113.
8 The Durer House in Nuremberg: Extracts from Durer’s Family Chronicles and Reminiscences, English translation by John M. Woolman, Nuremberg. pp. 34-46.
9 Religion and Civilization, Abul Hasan All Nadawi, Academy of Islamic Research and 8 Publications, Lucknow, 1970, p. 45.